Yesterday, in Coping With Christmas (Part 1) (click here to read), I wrote about limbering up for my first Sober Christmas.
Step 1 of the workout was the, somewhat painful, revisiting of the reality of Christmas Past.
Step 2 (today's post) is about finding another way of celebrating Christmas.
Since this is all new to me, I've enlisted the help of the fabulous Wayne Dyer. Wayne died earlier this year, but, thanks to the wonders of the interweb, his wisdom lives on.
Wayne talks about reclaiming 'what should be a time of appreciation, excitement, joy, and peace'.
That description sounds a million miles away from my usual experience of Christmas! Peace? Appreciation? Excitement?
My feelings about Christmas would usually encompass panic, trepidation, queasiness, exhaustion.... Peace? Definitely not. Apart from a fleeting moment when I'd just poured the first glass of wine of the day. Oh. There's the problem....
Intrigued, I read on. How, oh wonderful-Wayne-guru can Christmas possibly involve appreciation, excitement, joy and peace.....and no alcohol?
Here's Wayne's mantra for 'rekindling the spirit of love, and living life to its fullest' over Christmas:
1. I’ll let the holidays flow, rather than trying to make them fit into a fixed schedule.
2. I’ll remember that people are more important than things.
3. I’ll relax my expectations for myself and others this year.
4. I’m going to live in the present moment and enjoy each activity for itself instead of always thinking about what is ahead of me.
5. I’m going to approach the holidays with a sense of joyful anticipation and wonder, just like I did when I was a child.
All easier said than done, but I've been repeating 1-5 daily, hoping that it'll all sink in. It does rather go against all my natural inclinations. NO FIXED SCHEDULE? Are you kidding? NOT THINKING AHEAD? Nothing will ever get done!
I read Wayne's list out to the family. They snorted with derision. "Doesn't sound like Mummy, does it children?" said Mr SM, staring pointedly at my To Do List and Holiday Planner.
Well, I'm going to prove them wrong.
The trick, I think, is in the line 'just like I did when I was a child.' #1, #2 and #3 do all of the above naturally (apart from number 2, obvs!). So I'm just going to try copying them.
No more blurring off all the edges. No more wading through the days numb or hungover. Just joy, anticipation and wonder in glorious technicolour.
Bring it on!
Love SM x