Friday, 17 August 2018
Alcohol and the Sun
Sunshine and alcohol go together like champagne at Wimbledon, a glass of chilled white wine by the pool or a cocktail on the beach. As soon as the sun comes out, we all go crazy and start taking off our clothes, dancing on tables, singing badly and copping off with strangers.
Or was that just me?
For many years, I couldn't imagine the summer without booze. Yet, here I am, in sunny France, on holiday with Mr SM, the kids and my parents, and I'm not missing it at all.
In the old days, french holidays were all about le vin. Now they're about early morning swims, trips to the local market to buy delicious cheeses, bread and fruit for lunch and time spent reconnecting with family.
But the first summer without alcohol is hard, so if you're struggling, you might find that this new research, sent to me by my friends over at The Age Well Project, gives you the added incentive that you need.
A recent study of 300,000 Americans found that excessive drinking was associated with higher rates of sunburn.
The authors acknowledge the fact that this may be due to big drinkers being people who generally play fast and loose with health warnings and laugh in the face of caution, but they argue that it's also a result of alcohol's impact on our skin.
When we drink, our body produces lots of free radicals which eat up the antioxidants that protect our skin from sunburn, and our bodies from cancer. (I'd always thought that 'free radicals' sounded pretty exciting, and rather wanted to be one, but apparently they are baddies).
Amazingly, the study showed that if you drink three shots of vodka, within just eight minutes the level of protective antioxidants in your skin drops dramatically, leaving you at higher risk of sunburn, premature skin ageing and skin cancer.
Conversely, if you want to help protect your skin in the sun, the study also showed that eating (or drinking) fresh fruit and vegetables will increase the antioxidants in your skin and enhance your natural sunblock. Yay - bring out the mocktails!
If you'd like to read the whole article on alcohol and sun damage, you can find it on the SoberMummy Facebook page.
In other news this summer, I went to my first festival sober - WOMAD. I discovered a whole new side to festivals I hadn't known existed - early morning yoga and tai chi, fabulous talks and demonstrations and delicious food, as well as the incredible music and dance. Who knew there were morning events at festivals?
While I was there, I gave a talk (yes, really!) for Radio 4's Four Thought on why Sober is the New Happy. If you'd like to hear it, it'll be on BBC Radio 4, 8.45pm on August 22nd, then after that on iPlayer (search for Four Thought).
And, finally, if you're looking for some summer reading by the pool, then look no further than The Sober Diaries, described as Bridget Jones Dries Out, and available here (UK) and here (USA).
Bon Vacances, my friends!
SM x
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Last year, my first summer holiday sober was 'easy', but that is because I think I was still mortified at my actions the week before going on holiday - I didn't dare and didn't want to touch a drop of booze. This year was a different ball game and it was much harder. I was 'proper sober' and noticed that alcohol is EVERYWHERE at any time of day. I found it hard not to feel slightly wistful and quite sad that I couldn't join in and have a boozy drink too.
ReplyDeleteI managed though and I'm sure it will become easier over time.
Enjoy your holiday Claire x
Currently on holiday in our van (2 years sober anniversary next week) having been over and under roads down little roads and all on the ‘wrong’side of the road while my patient hubby asked me what sat nav was saying while it recalculated .... I ached for a glass of the numbing juice!! However settled for a cup of tea which worked wonders!! So the wine witch can still offer her wares... but we know better than to accept don’t we!!! Happy hols all
ReplyDeleteJacs60 writing the above :-)
DeleteThank you for the ongoing motivation Claire, I emigrated to Australia last year and found my drinking escalating with the constant sunshine (not to mention the stress of relocating with 4 kids and no work...) I am on my second attempt at going sober after a fail earlier this year and am feeling good as I approach week 4 tomorrow. Your book and posts helped me immensely and continue to do so, thank you and happy holidays 😊 x
ReplyDeleteClare When did they get that picture of us on the beach!!!! (Lol)
ReplyDeleteYour holiday Sounds fab! I’ve had 2 sober beach holidays now and both were my best holidays yet, so good to come home not feeling like I needed a holiday to recover!! And you get to remember it all which is the best bit. Have a lovely time making family memories xxxxxxx
Hi, Clare! I am lurking in my A/C in the semi-darkness with my NA beer, as is right and meet. I do recall getting hammered in the sun (I grew up in California where we sunbathed in vegetable oil). Frankly, a nice Bitburger Drive tastes just as good in the sun. Enjoy your holiday, Lady! Next month I am going with some sober lady friends to SheRecovers LA, so I shall also be sober-partying. Hahah!
ReplyDeleteHi Clare!
ReplyDeleteIt's Monday morning and instead of being on the train on the way to work, I'm in bed nursing an awful hangover, having emailed my boss to call in sick. I'm sad to say that this is not an uncommon occurrence for me. Usually I only drink enough have a dull headache the next day, but I went slightly over the usual bottle of wine yesterday while relaxing at home... yup, no wild party to blame, and as a result I threw up this morning and I feel pretty awful. I also feel ashamed for lying to my boss, and just for not being able to beat this no matter how bloody hard I try to moderate it. I've read your book, and have just watched your Ted Talk. You're so inspiring, and I know I need to kick this, or else end up wasting my life. I feel stuck, and I'm absolutely petrified. :(
Sending you a massive hug, I have been exactly where you are and it was after a hangover from just being in not even out, and I was sick after the school run, that I decided I had had enough. Honestly you can do this, there is so much online support - a Facebook group called the unexpected joy of being sober is good for people in the early days and I’ve started a blog and insta page that can help you focus on exercise and recovery. You can do this, you never want to feel like this again so make today the day you can change. I will be 21 months sober tomorrow, I have changed my life and you can do it too. Big hugs xxxxxx
DeleteI know how you feel, I felt stuck too for so long. That's one of the best things about giving up alcohol, the freedom and leaving behind the constant feeling that things need to change. I truly believe there is no time like the present to start, you won't be sorry. Xx
DeleteYou can beat this! Start today. Make that your last drink ever. Also read Jason Vale Kick The Drink Easily. It makes this addiction so easy to make sense of and so easy to ditch. I know you can do this!
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DeleteDitto. I've done exactly the same and delayed going to work for fear if being over the limit - all after lying in bed for hours at 'silly 'O clock' during the night worrying & hating myself for doing it yet again! I always start off my sober quest with such gusto but have never managed it ... yet! This is the first time I've ever written anything on a blog ... the kisses were from me too - just to make sure I was really listed as anonymous. Xx
DeleteEnjoy your holiday. This is really interesting. Im always in the sun, it's not too bad here even now in winter. My skin has aged a lot in recent years and maybe thats why?
ReplyDeleteDefinitely don't miss the dull dehydration headache that comes with drinking in the sun. Your sober summer holiday sounds much better xx
SM, I am busy reading your book, Sober Diaries. Preordained or serendipitous, it basically shoved itself into my face at the local waterstones (no i didnt walk into the bookshelf oddly placed in the middle of the floor...)It came at the perfect and has given me that extra strength I desperately needed. You make me feel human, not alone, as well as providing ample laughs... which lets face it, really is the best medicine. I'm 1 month into my sober journey and after reading your book I'm actually excited about this new chapter in my life. Dance in the rain and all that ;)
ReplyDeleteI’ve made so many attempts at stopping the drink, knowing that it would be for the best but never quite managing it. This time i had my last drink on the 17th August so only on day 5. The last time I stopped for eight weeks after reading Jason vales book. This time I am more determined than ever and have just finished your sober diary. It was great to read something that could have been written about myself and feel inspired and motivated to change my life for ever. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI was so angry to hear your glibly complacent piece on the wireless just now that I had to seek out your blog to comment. You had been abusing wine most horribly, it is a not a drug but a component of a wonderful drink that needs respect, and that respect consists simply of understanding that it is a beverage to accompany food. If one sticks to that and doesn't abuse it as an aid to 'relaxation'and drink it away from the table absolutely everything is fine. Your abuse is not the fault of wine.Learn to enjoy it properly and you will become wiser and kinder.
ReplyDeleteErm......... ok????????!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteActually alcohol is a drug. It's classed as a depressent. It's also one of the top 10 addictive substances in the world.
DeleteSince when does learning to enjoy wine make you wiser and kinder? Not sure what generation you are from however no-one I know purely drinks alcohol with meals I can assure you! Try looking at the global report out this week which confirms there is no safe level for drinking. Hey they used to think smoking was safe and it was promoted to help you stay slim and beautiful...
Delete'Glibly complacent?' How about glibly sanctimonious and clueless? If you are able to enjoy a bit of vino with a meal - period - well, good for you. Many, many people are not able to do that....and it has NOTHING to do with will power or 'respect.'
DeleteWhy so defensive....and judgemental???
Hi Clare and Everyone, I've just got back from what should have been my first sober holiday, and failed. I was 148 days sober when on day 4 of the holiday I caved and had a glass of wine. Why? I was feeling left out - pathetic. You're so right Clare, alcohol is everywhere on holidays, and after a pretty stressful run up to my holiday, I thought a glass might help me relax, and I was interested to see how I would cope. About two thirds of the way through the glass of white I felt a familiar oblivion start to descend and was faced with the decision to carry on and slip into it or stop there. I stopped there. And I was exceptionally proud of myself. I started to think that maybe I had finally become what I set out to when I first read Clare's book - the elusive moderate drinker. So on day 5 I decided to share a bottle of white with my husband at dinner. That night I couldn't sleep and all the reasons why I gave alcohol up in the first place came flooding back and I haven't touched a drop since.
ReplyDeleteI think part of the reason why I caved in the first place was because I was stuck with diet coke or sparkling water for the first few days of the holiday. I've been coping with socialising in the UK with non-alcoholic beers whilst out and fancy cordials and invented mocktails at home. But these were non-existent at our local Intermarche. So after coming to my senses and realising that I am still an all or nothing drinker, I did disover 'Superbock sem alcohol', Portugal's premium non alcohol lager, and was able to partake of the odd one when I felt like it. However, I still feel dehydrated even after drinking non-alcohol beers and wines - is that just me?
Anyway, I've fallen off the wagon but fortunately it hadn't travelled far and I was able to catch up with it, jump back on and reclaim my seat. What I want to know now is - have I failed, do I have to start counting my days again? Am I fraud, and just lying to myself if I carry on saying I've been sober since March?
Apologies for the long post, I've never poured my heart out like this before. Thank you for reading, if you've managed to stick with it this far and thank you Clare for all your support and work for the sober community.
I wouldn't start counting again. You could always minus 2 days from your total. You will know your days are not necessarily in a row. It happens and the best part is you put stopped again right away. X
DeleteThank you! X
DeleteThanks for this. This is my first comment anywhere. I stopped drinking 17 days ago and now I am on vacation. I feel like an alien,(especially to myself). The hardest part has been no one thinks I have a problem. I don't know. Don't you think drinking after 9 every night year after year is not a great idea?
ReplyDeleteOf course you are right - it is NOT a great idea. Lucky are those of us, i think, who can realize, finally let in the truth, that what we are doing IS destructive and a change is needed. Huge congrats to you on 17 days. I wish you continued strength and success!
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ReplyDeleteHi Claire,
ReplyDeleteI just finished your book (got it on Amazon), and went searching for your blog. I'm not sure if you will read this, but your book has helped me immensely. It is incredibly inspiring and truthful. I am a 38 year old stay at home mother to 2 and 3 year old boys. We live a very blessed life, but I too have started drinking a bottle of (usually too expensive) wine every night. Your story very much put things into perspective for me, because this has become pretty normal for the SAHM crowd. I have spent a lot of time recently worrying about my health, and whether or not this little "mommy habit" is controlling me. Thank you for your story! -mammaofboys
Hi Clare-I have just finished your book and as i began reading, I thought "his is just like me" (swap wine for beer)-but by the end I realised this IS me! Your book is so candid and it made me laugh, cry, accept but most of all gave me hope! Thank you so much as i now start my journey to kill the beer bitch ;) I feel strong and can't wait to feel good again x Much love to you <3 #breakingfree
ReplyDeleteHi Clare, Thank you for this- such an interesting read. For me, when I used to drink, I would be too laid back about everything- including applying sun cream hence skin damage- particularly a regular occurrence in my younger years. I’m reading your book at the moment and I am so enjoying it. I love your vulnerability and your honesty and your humour is wonderful. It’s not often that I laugh out loud when I read. I decided to try sobriety earlier this year and reached over 120 days. I announced it on my blog and I had a few people tag you in and I’m so glad they did. In that time, I’d even travelled a great deal and still kept strong. After 120 days were reached, I thought I would try and drink occasionally but it soon became apparent that I couldn’t do it and alcohol was starting to make me feel terrible again- physically and emotionally. I’m now back on my sober journey (after drinking again for about a month and a half) and I’m feeling good and I’m now on day 10. It’s hard starting again but this time I know it has to be for good! I can so relate to your life as we have a lot in common ( I have a daughter called Evie and my husband is John and I also used to be in advertising- pre media actually). It helps when you can relate to someone. Well done on your talk with bbc- it was wonderful and you speak so well. I hope you have had (are having) a wonderful holiday :)
ReplyDeleteI literally by chance stumbled across your book, I ran out of reads, bored on holiday and watched a programme on alcohol, I went to a small book shop and stumbled across just one copy sat in the wrong place on the shelf and thought, What the hell its an omen, I have just started reading it ( now half way) its Hilarious, inspiring, eye opening and like you are actually in my head, I want to be your new cup a T buddy. Love it, Thank you so much for starting a new me. Jen x
ReplyDeleteThank you for your book ..you put into words exactly how i feel. I quit 4 weeks ago but had a little stumble 3 days ago where I thought I could trust myself to just have one glass. Unfortunately it was the whole bottle and a humdinger of a hangover later that I realise I have to quit completely as I have no control. The wine witch is such an apt way to explain the battle going on in my head...I just need to find the super powers to extinguish her for good !!! My battle begins again fingers and toes crossed xxx
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