Tuesday, 24 April 2018
What Will You Do Next?
Last week was Eminem's ten year Soberversary.
(When my children were small they were convinced that his name was M&M and that he had a sideline in chocolate manufacturing).
I found an article from the New York Times that was written shortly after Eminem left rehab. He'd just released his first new album in five years - Relapse - inspired by his addiction and recovery.
In creating this album, Eminem said "I'm kind of just coming clean and exhaling."
Like so many people who've written to me, Eminem found that "the deeper I got into my addiction, the tighter the lid got on my creativity... but when I got sober the wheels started turning again."
"When I got sober the lid just came off. In seven months I accomplished more than I could accomplish in three or four years of doing drugs."
(To read the full article visit the SoberMummy Facebook page. 'Like' page to stay updated).
It's amazing what people start doing with their lives once they quit drinking.
The combination of more money, more energy, more creativity and more time creates a rocket fuel.
For many, though, it doesn't happen as quickly as it did for Eminem.
For me, the first year was all about healing and introspection. I did pick up writing (this blog), for the first time in decades, but, like Eminem, that was very much about 'coming clean and exhaling.' It was therapy.
It's often the second and third year after beating addiction that people's lives really turn around.
Many of my readers have started new businesses, climbed mountains, run marathons, become jewellery designers, yoga teachers, writers or artists. One lady has started doing an open-mic poetry reading session, another is doing stand-up comedy.
It feels a bit like that lid has been pressed down so hard, that when it's released it explodes with the power of a jack-in-the-box.
So, what are you going to do now you're sober? Please tell us in the comments!
I am, this evening in fact, as the picture above suggests, going back to school. I'm starting a three month novel-writing course.
It's something I've wanted to do for YEARS, but never would have managed in the drinking days. For a start, I'd have told myself that I wasn't good enough. Secondly, its in the evenings! 7-9pm! It would have interfered far too much with my drinking time.
I'm a bit nervous. I'm wondering what the other fourteen students will be like. There's bound to be at least one that winds everyone up. Argh! What if it's me?!?
In other news, Mr SM is having a mid-life crisis.
He hasn't bought a Harley Davidson yet, but - after our brief flirtation with summer last week, he's bought a GIANT gas barbecue for the garden. Everyday new accessories arrive for this beast. A smoker. A rotisserie. A metal suitcase filled with barbecue tongs.
On top of that, he's started cycling to and from work. More accessories. He's started mumbling about lycra. OMG, I'm going to have a MAMIL* for a husband.
(*Middle-Aged Man In Lycra).
And, finally, a BIG, BIG thanks to all of you who've left reviews of The Sober Diaries on Amazon. I looked at my UK page yesterday (okay, I confess: I look at it every day), and there were TWO-HUNDRED reviews. You are amazing, and I am overwhelmed.
To see the reviews, or to buy a copy of The Sober Diaries in hardback, Kindle or audio, click here for UK, here for USA and here for Australia.
To watch my TEDx talk: Making Sober Less Shameful, click here.
Love to you all!