Sunday, 13 November 2016

There is a Crack in Everything

What a week. America elects Trump and Leonard Cohen dies.

Do you think those two events are related? Did Cohen see the news and lose all desire to ever sing again?

Cohen was, first and foremost, a poet. He said that he only took to song writing because he couldn't make enough money from poetry.

The lines of poetry, from his song 'Anthem', that have been haunting me this week are these:

Ring the bells that still can ring.
Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything,
That's how the light gets in.

We are obsessed with papering over our cracks.

We are constantly bombarded with Facebook and Instagram posts of people's perfect offerings. Perfect faces, bodies, children, houses. We never get to see the hidden wrinkles, cellulite, behavioural issues and damp.

It's so easy to believe in all of it, particularly if you're an adolescent, programmed to hate your own flaws and disregard anyone else's.

One thing the last year and half has taught me is that there really is a crack in everything. Everyone has their hidden struggles - their addictions, their fears, their challenges, because that's how life is.

I've also learned that, once you find out how to deal with those cracks, how to fill them up properly, rather than just pour booze into them, you'll be stronger and more fearless than ever before.

Now, when I meet someone new, I look past the perfect face they show the world and try to see the cracks. Because it's the cracks that make us unique, that make us interesting. Without them it's all a bit bland, a bit meh.

It's the cracks that let the light in.

Thank you, Leonard Cohen, for leaving us your words, and happy Sunday to you all,

SM x

P.S. Please check out lovely reader Neinwine's new blog at


  1. I try to teach my kids about the cracks on a daily basis. Everyone is going through something at every moment of the day. Perhaps its a fight with a friend, an issue with a spouse, or a secret drinking habit- you never know. I like to look at the cracks as the reason to be loving and kind to everyone you come in contact with. As I tell the kids, being nice is easy and free. Thanks for pointing out the cracks. I wish more people in the world acknowledged cracks.

  2. Thank you so much for the help and encouragement you have given me through your honesty, humility and humour over the last 76 days ... Onwards and upwards smiling.

    Prompted by your request to visit anintoxicatingaffair .. What a great name .. I have, I think, worked out how to do some of this blog responding!!

    Thank you again

  3. Funny I wondered if the two events were connected too. And who could blame him.?Loved Leonard Cohen in my student days. Time for a revisit

  4. Leonard was Canadian, and I hope didn't take the election so to heart that he died, although it's quite nerve-wracking to live next door to a rather explosive neighbour... Husband and I were listening to Famous Blue Raincoat, done in the 80s, Jennifer Warnes put his poetry to music. He lived such a full life. Day 60-something here in Ontario, feeling fabulous.

  5. SM, Reds back, looking for a chocolate overdose!! When's the book coming out??


    1. I saw Red was back - yay! I have meetings with FOUR publishers lined up over the next couple of weeks, so watch this space....

    2. I don't know why you all would assume everyone is depressed about the election. I am certainly not.

  6. This was a great read! Thank you so much. I wrote a similar blog about addiction and if it is a disease or a choice? I'd love to get your opinion on it!