Monday, 11 July 2016

Grief

I have this friend. He is Scottish, but descended from the Scandanavians. He looks like a Viking invader. Tall, strong, unstoppable.

Over two decades our lives became entwined, like the gnarled roots of an oak tree.

I met my husband at his Hogmanay party. He was our best man. His wife is one of my best friends. His daughter is my goddaughter and mine is his.

He is incredibly loyal and kind, with huge, capable hands that can fix anything, and a hug that makes the world right again.

A few days ago he flew to Tanzania to spend a month with a charity helping to build homes for widows, orphans and families in need. That's the kind of man he is.

This morning he went for a run, had a heart attack and died.

He was forty six years old. He has three young children.

He will never walk his daughter down the aisle, never hold his grandchildren in his arms, never grow old alongside his wife.

There is a Thor shaped hole in my heart.

If you are waiting for the right time to start properly living your life, do it now. If you're waiting for the right time to tell friends or family how much you love them, do it now.

Don't wait.

33 comments:

  1. So so sorry. Truly awful . And of course, you are so right xx

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  2. So sorry for your loss. Thanks for reminding me that we'll got is today, so carpe diem!

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  3. Oh how sad. You must be heart broken. His poor family. So sorry to hear that x

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  4. So so sorry for everyone in that circle of family and friends. What a sad loss for you all and a wake up call indeed to live and love every minute. Same age as me, it's frightening. Love and hugs to you and yours.

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  5. A heart just breaks...to think of this loss, the sorrow and grief for family and those close. Hugs to you and Mr. SM....

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  6. I'm so sorry for your, his family and friends loss. He sounds like a truly wonderful person. So terrible and sad news for everyone that loved him. Take care.

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  7. So sorry for your loss. Sending love. Take care x

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  8. All the earth and air
    With thy voice is loud,
    As, when night is bare,
    From one lonely cloud
    The moon rains out her beams, and Heaven is overflow'd.

    Justonemore

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  9. Oh darling SM. Sending you big virtual hugs. How fortunate you are to have such s wonderful friend. I am sure you and Mr SM will make sure his memory lives on. His wife and children must be in such a deep state of shock. Thank goodness you both are there for them.

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  10. Oh the agony. Death is a dreadful pain. I'm so dreadfully sorry for you and your friend. x

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  11. That is absolutely terrible. I'm so very sorry. X

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  12. I am so very sorry SM. Sending all my love and hugs xx

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  13. Awful. I am so so sorry! It is absolutely horrible. And yes, live your life now. Don't wait. Hugs!

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  14. Oh, SM, that is tragic! So sorry for all of you!

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  15. Heartfelt hugs to you and all those touched by a wonderful soul....

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  16. How very sad for you and his family and friends. Thinking of you PDTG x

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  17. So sorry SM, sending hugs and keep you in our thoughts

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  18. What a body blow! I'm so sorry for your loss. Sounds like he was a very special person. Very tough time for you. His poor family. Big hug.

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  19. I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing human being who touched many lives. Xxx

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  20. Thoughts and hugs to you and those closest to you x

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  21. So sorry for your loss, SM.
    This hits incredibly close to home for me. My husband's father (my father-in-law) was an amazing man. Went out for a bike ride with my husband and never came back. Massive heart attack and was dead within a few minutes.
    It is the most shocking feeling to have the most mundane life situations turn into the one moment you will never forget. Thinking about you and sending love and prayers.
    -Nikki

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  22. Heartbreaking news SM. Thinking of you all at this unimaginable time. Be strong. Big hugs. LNM x

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    1. P.s if you don't feel strong we are here to hold you up x

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  23. Darling SM, this is too much... thinking of you and sending love and prayers. Life really is not fair. My heart goes out to his children and wife xxxx

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  24. That's awful. So sad and scary. Take care xxx

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  25. I am so very sorry for your huge loss. Take care x

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  26. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Can't imagine what you and his family must be going through. Please take good care of yourself. I am thinking of you. A x

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  27. Oh I'm so sorry :-( So devastating.

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  28. I'm so sorry dear SM. How absolutely devastating. My thoughts are with you and his family today. xxx

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