I have always been proud to call myself a feminist.
I went to Cambridge University, to an all girls college called Newnham. Newnham was founded by Millicent Fawcett, the famous suffragist, who has just been honoured with the first statue of a woman erected in Parliament Square.
Newnham opened its doors to women in 1871, but they weren't made full members of the University, or awarded degrees, until 1948.
When we ate dinner in formal hall, we sat underneath a (rather battered) suffragette banner which was carried by the women of Newnham in the marches on Parliament.
I loved the history of my college. I was determined that I would do anything and everything that the boys could do.
I quickly discovered that all the mixed colleges had male-only drinking societies, which held the most riotous and popular of the student parties.
So, my friends and I set up a women's only drinking society at our college, and we drank and partied as hard as any of the men.
I thought alcohol was a feminist issue. I totally bought into the idea - propagated in the 1980s - that keeping up with the men meant drinking as much as they did.
I loved the 'ladette' culture, and drank like Bridget Jones, the Sex and the City girls and Absolutely Fabulous.
Then I became a mum.
I grew up chanting the mantra that women could have it all. A successful career and a family.
I quickly realised that that is possible, but it's incredibly hard. The men who'd managed to juggle careers and families had wives at home keeping the ship afloat for them.
We had virtually no help, and were expected to do the lion's share of the domestic work and the childcare as well as the job.
It's not surprising that 'wine o'clock' has become such a thing. It's our generation's equivalent of the valium our mother's generation described as 'mummy's little helper.' It keeps us sane, it helps us relax, it's our reward for a job well done (or a job done, at least).
Only it's not really a reward. It's a drug. And more and more of us are becoming addicted to it and finding that it's having a terrible effect on our mental and physical health.
We have created lives for ourselves that we constantly try to run away from, by self-medicating.
I've also realised that the way we use alcohol, instead of helping us keep up with the boys, is stopping us achieving as much as we could.
One of the things I hear from women over and over again, is that when they stop drinking their careers take off. They have more energy, they sleep better, they have more time, they become incredibly productive and creative.
The truth is, we cannot break down the glass ceiling when we have wine glasses in our hands.
Emmeline Pankhurst said "I would rather be a rebel than a slave." We did not fight for our freedom from the patriarchy only to become slaves to the booze.
So, if you are struggling with alcohol addiction, take heart from this suffragette quote: Never surrender. Never give up the fight.
In other news this week, huge apologies to those of you in the USA and Canada who've been unable to download the Kindle version of The Sober Diaries. It's now back on line and (for a limited time only) at a discounted price. You can find it here USA, or here for UK, or here for Australia.
On Sunday 20th May 7pm (UK time) I'm hosting a live webinar on Club Soda on booze and parenting. Do tune in if you can! You need to be a member to watch, but membership is by voluntary donation - you just pay what you can afford. You can find Club Soda here.
As always, there's loads more inspiration and information on the SoberMummy Facebook page and on Instagram (@clare_pooley).
Love to you all,