tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post752907226894129663..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: IntrospectionSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-16072313741531855992015-06-09T13:51:22.341-07:002015-06-09T13:51:22.341-07:00Hi SM I really felt for you when I read Sunday’s p...Hi SM I really felt for you when I read Sunday’s post as I had been struggling with similar feelings. Me and my daughter took part in a sponsored run this weekend and I managed to get myself in a right tiz about who had and hadn’t sponsored me. I felt hurt, rejected, worthless and angry and then some. I spent hours that should have been spent feeling quietly pleased with myself wondering why some people had chosen not to sponsor me, asking myself why that bothered me so much and then asking myself why I wasn’t more pleased about those who had sponsored me. <br />Being overlooked in some way always hurts but I’m glad I didn’t decide to stick a metaphorical two fingers up at them all by pouring myself a large drink . Come to think of it, had I still been drinking I probably wouldn’t have got anywhere near as far as doing a sponsored run at all. A few days on and I’m beginning to feel a bit better about it all. I do think I could have expected more support from some people but I’m not letting it eat me up any more. <br />Whilst it’s no bad thing for any of us to reflect how being sober may have improved our behaviour please, please don’t beat yourself up too much about what you have done in the past to deserve being left out from an invitation. Maybe it was nothing at all. You just don’t know. Thinking over what we get in comparison to what we deserve is like being lost in a maze. It’s hard to find a logical way through. <br />I suppose there are no easy answers to facing up to life on the sober front line. Nothing is ever going to be as instant ( or as pointless) as a drink to remove the pain of rejection. Holding on and seeing it through doesn’t bring any easy answers but it does usually bring us through to a better place. Reading your blog today I can see that you are definitely in a much better place. A 100 bloody days!! Wow, where did that time go? Congratulations and hugs. Flossie x<br />Flossiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17552954116789823515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-89008684422995402562015-06-08T18:04:36.145-07:002015-06-08T18:04:36.145-07:00I suspect that alcohol made us not very nice peopl...I suspect that alcohol made us not very nice people. I cringe when I think of some of my behaviour whilst drinking. <br />We can't change our past, but we can change the present. So that is what I'm trying to do, Be a better person today.<br />Congrats on day 99!! That is fantastic. You have done so well and I am very proud of you!<br />A xAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553400229726508527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-79860950071519483462015-06-08T15:02:26.215-07:002015-06-08T15:02:26.215-07:00Welcome vida! I can't believe you read the who...Welcome vida! I can't believe you read the whole lot! That's very brave of you! I raise a AF beer back atchya. Hugs xxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-87736079977657884422015-06-08T15:00:25.914-07:002015-06-08T15:00:25.914-07:00I am going to repeat 'kindness and compassion&...I am going to repeat 'kindness and compassion' to myself 100 times every morning and evening!SoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-85937599091002103832015-06-08T14:36:01.262-07:002015-06-08T14:36:01.262-07:00I did just write my first ever comment - only to m...I did just write my first ever comment - only to manage to delete it!! So here's shorter version.. I have read your posts from start to finish over a two day period. In that context - seeing your journey to your 100th day - the lack of invite to a party is just a blip! You've made your own virtual party of followers and supporters. Well done - I will raise a glass of sparkling water with ice and a twist of lime to your monumental achievement. Well done - you have really earned it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-21432181255992921992015-06-08T08:40:42.660-07:002015-06-08T08:40:42.660-07:00I expect I wasn't the nicest person either. So...I expect I wasn't the nicest person either. So self involved. Although I would have bent over backwards to convince you to like me and that I was a fun person.<br /><br />The truth? What others think of us is none of our business. My personal motivation is kindness and compassion. I try to use this in all areas of my life. My husband laughs, and worries I will be taken advantage of, but he recognizes that it has made me happy. To see the good in things first. To feel like I am making a difference.<br /><br />If people feel that positive flow from me that's great. If not, I can't make them like me. Whenever I try it feels wrong. I need to be true to me.<br /><br />There are lots of people in the world. Don't let a few meanies bring you down!<br /><br />AnneAinsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-23898988932417816712015-06-08T07:11:31.983-07:002015-06-08T07:11:31.983-07:00I wasn't nice either. I suspect I have been le...I wasn't nice either. I suspect I have been left off party invitations too. Try and remember that it wasn't you! You made a very eloquent argument that alcohol addiction is not a failing on your part - it's the ALCOHOL! So don't beat yourself up! Just celebrate this one day from 100, that you saw the light, and you are back to your old self - the good person you always were xxJackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09236064383725290818noreply@blogger.com