tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post7309293673655886852..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: AA, and when the virtual world isn't enoughSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-36255102156479832002015-06-06T00:04:06.117-07:002015-06-06T00:04:06.117-07:00Oh wow. I ❤️you! XOh wow. I ❤️you! XSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-32272917052558056292015-06-05T04:20:15.181-07:002015-06-05T04:20:15.181-07:00Ironically I have done long periods of not drinkin...Ironically I have done long periods of not drinking before. But and here is the big but we go back thinking maybe we can drink moderately or "manage" it. And it becomes a slow exhausting dance (see the red shoes story in women who run with the wolves -I promise it is a book that will give you more than you ever imagined on all levels) But getting there this time was much harder. That's why your posts have been an enormous help. Not only are you doing something amazing but you are creating sharing and supporting. This is the first time I have even commented on a blog. Huge massive thanks and huge respect for your hard work, generosity and honesty. XxEowynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01053520691344714965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-54403987739958035432015-06-05T04:19:13.905-07:002015-06-05T04:19:13.905-07:00Good luck Eowyn. Friday evenings are tough initial...Good luck Eowyn. Friday evenings are tough initially! I suggest good TV, a hot chocolate and an early night. And keep thinking about Saturday morning, which will be awesome! Love SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-49077356485968820172015-06-05T03:54:56.331-07:002015-06-05T03:54:56.331-07:00SM, you inspired me to take the leap to be AF one ...SM, you inspired me to take the leap to be AF one day at a time. The competition was a long slow unraveling of years and much more recently feeling uncomfortable with so many feelings about alcohol. I deserve to be the best of who I am for my family, competition partner and me. Thank you wish me luck for this weekend and getting through a first sober Friday in a while. 6 days today :0) xxEowynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01053520691344714965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-30584951711454798022015-06-04T18:37:27.335-07:002015-06-04T18:37:27.335-07:00Great story!
I do go to AA as well as blog, tellin...Great story!<br />I do go to AA as well as blog, telling my family and friends. I am doing all and everything this time, because just doing one thing was not working.<br />I love knowing real people I can call if I think I want to drink.<br />Hugs!<br />WendyUntipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-1438528092064529152015-06-04T18:02:44.802-07:002015-06-04T18:02:44.802-07:00Hi SM. Congrats on 3 months. That's so awesome...Hi SM. Congrats on 3 months. That's so awesome!!<br />I have thought of going to AA but something always stops me. I might consider it further down the track, but for now, I think I'm ok without it. Your friend sounds lovely. What a generous thing for her to do. I would have been so touched. I would really love to have a sober friend in real life. Who knows, if I went to AA I might find one. A x<br />Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553400229726508527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-79320271319084351512015-06-04T12:54:35.383-07:002015-06-04T12:54:35.383-07:00Thanks so much EH. You're doing great too - vi...Thanks so much EH. You're doing great too - virtual hug to you xxxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-13610984580945431152015-06-04T12:53:57.663-07:002015-06-04T12:53:57.663-07:00Thanks so much Eowyn for your hugely kind words. A...Thanks so much Eowyn for your hugely kind words. And the wild wolf running woman sounds fab! SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-31062922986522445302015-06-04T12:52:57.909-07:002015-06-04T12:52:57.909-07:00Hi mtts! I'm sure I'd have the same proble...Hi mtts! I'm sure I'd have the same problems as you, but I'm much more open to the whole thing now than I was at the beginning. Love SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-27688881301442977382015-06-04T12:51:28.435-07:002015-06-04T12:51:28.435-07:00I hear you, Anne. I'd like to meet the people....I hear you, Anne. I'd like to meet the people. Still scared. Still not sure about the steps. Hugs xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-89695694606074860082015-06-04T12:28:52.505-07:002015-06-04T12:28:52.505-07:00There is no way I could ever face an AA meeting bu...There is no way I could ever face an AA meeting but finding soberistas and subsequently reading your blog (and a few others) has been life changing for me. At the moment reading blogs and books about life AF is enough. Am not sure what I'll do if that changes but in the meantime it's enough. I'm saying that not to add extra pressure on you but really just to say 'thanks'. I'm so pleased you got your 3 month coin as you really deserve it - for your sobriety and for your example xEdinburgh Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507850075300916316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-73275339557739641512015-06-04T09:07:02.340-07:002015-06-04T09:07:02.340-07:00Also strongly recommend for transformational suppo...Also strongly recommend for transformational support Women Who Run With The Wolves: Contacting the Power of the Wild Woman by Dr Clarissa Pinkola EstésEowynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01053520691344714965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-28262932073083657512015-06-04T09:00:12.014-07:002015-06-04T09:00:12.014-07:00SM congratulations on 3 months. Not only have you ...SM congratulations on 3 months. Not only have you achieved something really amazing but inspired so many if us on the way. I stumbled across your blog, had been having similar thoughts as you and decided as I have a competition this weekend and I want to really be clear headed to give up. I stopped last Saturday and am taking it each day at a time. It's hard but I have been reading drinking a love story which I had on my bookshelf and you inspired me to open. It has really made me think about what the relationship is. I can already look myself in the eye, feel clearer and see and hear more. And most of all I feel like I am honouring my true self not showing a veiled diluted version. <br /><br />I have many things to be truly present for and many things that have driven this slow insidious slide (like all of us)<br /><br />Be very proud of what you have done and whom you have touched Eowynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01053520691344714965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-52005261548944258342015-06-04T08:08:58.192-07:002015-06-04T08:08:58.192-07:00Congratulations on three months, that's just i...Congratulations on three months, that's just incredible. A real milestone. I went to a good few meetings and I really struggled with them. The first one was terrifying and I cried at it but I struggled with the whole higher power thing (even though everyone said not to think about it) and I struggled with the stories that I heard in the meetings. <br /><br />I felt that for me I had a hard time really relating to the stories. I also had a real issue with the saying of the Lord's prayer at the end. But that is just me, for now. I am open to AA and to going back if I need to. And I also see that huge amount it does for others. I just don't have to say that I'm an alcoholic everytime I speak at a meeting for the rest of my life and I'm not sure I could adhere to their 12 steps. But I'm really glad I went. I think i needed to to admit to myself that I really have a problem.My time to shinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16901439496533901216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-81728124308706707012015-06-04T07:53:55.036-07:002015-06-04T07:53:55.036-07:00I say go to a meeting. The 12 steps are used by ma...I say go to a meeting. The 12 steps are used by many groups for a reason. They are a good path to self awareness.<br />I went to my first meeting at about 80 days. By then I had accepted I needed to do more than take a break, and I read Drinking a love story.<br />And I realized I was trying to do his alone, like everything else in my life. And I was tired.<br /><br />So I went. And I loved the honesty that flowed.<br /><br />I don't have a sponsor. There are few women at AA in my small city. I don't want to take on that aspect of the program. I have a therapist to deal with the emotional stuff. <br /><br />But I think everyone should go to a meeting once to hear the truth. We are all the same. The vodka drinker is no different. The heroin addict is n different. <br /><br />We all go caught up in addiction. Compulsive behaviour that was hard to stop. <br /><br />And those of us who are able to break the chains-however rusty or gilded that may be- are some of the strongest, most inspiring people in the world.Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-55073055388291447942015-06-04T05:36:14.841-07:002015-06-04T05:36:14.841-07:00That's so sad Kary Mary. Btw I just read your ...That's so sad Kary Mary. Btw I just read your post on banning the word 'alcoholic'. So beautifully put. SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-4113461286075023922015-06-04T05:34:49.197-07:002015-06-04T05:34:49.197-07:00Thanks so much for sharing that, Jen! Big hugs xxThanks so much for sharing that, Jen! Big hugs xxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-5833924020965649342015-06-04T05:15:55.818-07:002015-06-04T05:15:55.818-07:00Sorry, meant to say my friend is "now" d...Sorry, meant to say my friend is "now" dead.Kary Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12674442468925628974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-67631439305125247792015-06-04T05:14:55.294-07:002015-06-04T05:14:55.294-07:00I like you received a 90 Day from a friend, I have...I like you received a 90 Day from a friend, I have never been to a meeting. That friend is not dead, as a result of her drinking. Though she had several reprieves and fresh starts, it never stuck. She made it 6 years one time, which is a message to me to be ever vigilant. I know if I did relapse probably the first thing I would do is head to a meeting, but right now, I'm happy in my recovery. There is an openness in my virtual community and a lack of censorship that I find very liberating and comfortable. But, also like you, sometimes, I wish I had another recovered person to link arms with. Thank you for being here.Kary Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12674442468925628974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-59050942580052418422015-06-04T04:11:40.537-07:002015-06-04T04:11:40.537-07:00thats really nice. K x
thats really nice. K x<br />Kats76https://www.blogger.com/profile/18385975686360944534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-48412867161619578822015-06-04T04:03:18.128-07:002015-06-04T04:03:18.128-07:00Wow! What a beautiful gift from your friend. You...Wow! What a beautiful gift from your friend. You are truly blessed. <br />To be honest, walking into the AA rooms was the hardest thing I've ever done. I'm a teacher in a small community so my biggest fear came true when I walked into the first one and a parent of a child I'm teaching is sitting right there..... first one to see me walk in..... I crawled into my own skin and thought I was going to die. I sat there and listened and to be honest I thought.... Hell with this.... I want what these people have. They laughed. They taught. They prayed. They had the freedom and serenity I wanted. I had only been sober a couple of weeks and a few people came to me to give me numbers and hugs and for the first time, I felt like I belonged somewhere. One of the old-times said that my "meltdown" when I spoke helps him in his recovery because he remembers all too well how easy it is to get sucked back into the vicious cycle of drinking. I decided from that day on ... if my stories and words can help one person heal in some way, then that's exactly where I belong. <br />I'm done living in fear. Fear is not in control of my life anymore. I needed the hugs. I needed people in my lives who I can relate with. I love the blogging world. It keeps me sober too. But, nothing beats walking into a room full of loving people in recovery. Nothing beats that! I even get hugs from my student's father. <br />Hugs to you.... wish it were a great big one!! xo JenSober Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07649895813093622930noreply@blogger.com