tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post371907365710920608..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: Sober Easter HolidaysSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger145125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-80671018866658164992019-03-24T14:42:54.086-07:002019-03-24T14:42:54.086-07:00��������������������Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-11510407533189579762018-07-15T12:06:57.695-07:002018-07-15T12:06:57.695-07:00Meggie!! Clare has emailed you my number. I haven&...Meggie!! Clare has emailed you my number. I haven't got yours. Clare said she had passed mine to you so will await your message!! Yay!!! XxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-51132036715998825152018-07-14T14:01:56.849-07:002018-07-14T14:01:56.849-07:00Hello lovely, another hot day today and another ho...Hello lovely, another hot day today and another hot one forecast tomorrow and I bet it will be even hotter in London. I'm guessing you don't live a million miles away from London. But don't say where til we text and it would be fab to meet up sometime, I'm sure we will, that would be such fun! A VW show sounds a good day out, I used to have a VW camper van which was fab. Still no email from SM which is a shame, I'm itching to say a few things to you which I don't really want to post here. I really doubt anyone else reads it but you can't be sure I guess. Shall we give it a couple more days then perhaps set up temporary email accounts then we could somehow have a question I could answer about you to verify things or vice versa. And hope we don't get some weirdo impersonating one of us! Went for a fab run early this morning, saw some fox cubs and a hare, beautiful, whereas in my old life I would probably still been in bed nursing a dreadful hangover. I was flicking through the sober diaries yesterday and came across the field of bunnies bit and I suddenly cottoned on I'm there which is why I wrote the comment on SM's latest. I checked my app and I am now on day 111 and what with you on 6 months+ we bloody well rock mate!! Hope you have had a good day and enjoy whatever you do tomorrow. Big hugs xxx ps we've been chatting on here for about 3 months, wow that's gone quickly! xx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-12009838718796607812018-07-13T15:10:43.125-07:002018-07-13T15:10:43.125-07:00Hola! Yes I've just seen your post. Maybe she ...Hola! Yes I've just seen your post. Maybe she will see our emails soon after that. I think putting anything on here might be risky. You might get people emailing you saying that they were me... I'm always a bit wary of that kind of thing. Hence I'm not on social media at all. This is about the only thing I use. I did have FB years ago but hardly went on it and my mail box was stuffed with notifications so I threw in the towel. I just never had the time. That's lovely with the cottage. With all the weather we have been getting you'll have a great time. We are off to Croatia August 4th and I've just booked Malta for half term next year. Our daughter packs up school next Friday. I can't believe that's a year done already. You weekend sounds good. I could have come and met you in London! But having said that would have had to put details on here again so that wouldn't have worked. Well done on the running- I haven't been out for weeks. I must get back into it. The weekend for us is not a great deal tomorrow but off to a VW show on Sunday somewhere in Kent. My husband is going so I might tag along. Have a super weekend. It's going to be hot!!! XxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-60823776503549348342018-07-13T13:26:00.219-07:002018-07-13T13:26:00.219-07:00Hi again, I've just put another message on SM&...Hi again, I've just put another message on SM's latest saying I hope she puts us in touch soon so fingers crossed she sees it and acts! Will explain about work when we text but all is ok now thank you. And no don't put your number here just in case. It crossed my mind too but I think it's a bit risky, we just have to be patient (which I'm not good at!). I did think about setting up an email account and posting it here then asking you to email me Then once we were sure everything was ok give out our mobile no's by email but maybe we'll just wait and see if SM answers. I can't imagine anyone else is reading this as it's hard to find and most people would just look at the latest comment not trawl back. I'm sure they would be very bored by all of my inane drivel by now, lol!! <br />Re holidays, we just have a cottage booked in the UK and then need to book something else, must do it this weekend. When are you off to Croatia? Has your daughter broken up now?<br />I'm running tomorrow then going to London for the day on Sunday, what do you have planned? Hope you have a fab weekend.Take care and fingers crossed about SM seeing our emails soon xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-34551005862734794152018-07-13T08:13:41.981-07:002018-07-13T08:13:41.981-07:00Hello my love. That wine is haunting you!!!!! That...Hello my love. That wine is haunting you!!!!! That's so funny. You really do need to get rid of it!! I've just seen your other post on Clare's newest and have replied to you. Thanks so much for mentioning me. Was and am very proud to support you. You have done so so well and it's good in a lot of ways that we can reflect on how we felt and what this journey has been like. When I read my post of 100 days I was in bits. You on the other hand are so positive at 100 days - it just goes to show that no two people are the same and that we are all different in how they feel about packing up the booze and killing the wine bitch. Shame about the football - I knew when they scored so soon that it would go the other way. Call it sixth sense. But they've given us a brilliant run. So what happened at work? Everything ok? I know, shame we are not on WhatsApp but I'm sure she will get in touch soon - either to say yes she will or no she won't!! I'd be tempted just to put my number on here but that just wouldn't work. You don't know else is watching our chats and I'd probably get tons of messages all calling themselves Meggie. Then I wouldn't know who was who!!! What are you doing weekend? Anything exciting? Have you got any hols booked up? Big hugs xxxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-33851713981961979232018-07-12T05:44:03.395-07:002018-07-12T05:44:03.395-07:00Mate this will so make you laugh. SM says we shoul...Mate this will so make you laugh. SM says we should treat ourselves now and then so I treated my car to a wash and valet while I went to the supermarket. I got back to find they had put the contents from under the seats on the back seat. And guess what was there, a bloody bottle of wine I'd forgotten about! God I laughed my way round the shops and it still makes me giggle as I type this, lol! Wish we were on WhatsApp and I could have sent a pic to you, it really made me smile! xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-60410375241002503542018-07-11T21:42:55.557-07:002018-07-11T21:42:55.557-07:00Hello again, thanks for your lovely messages. Life...Hello again, thanks for your lovely messages. Life is great (despite losing the football and and having a v stressful day at work yesterday) and I'm so glad we have reached where we are, free of alcohol forever and at last I feel able to socialise without feeling like it's a sacrifice and that I'm missing out. And you clearly can too. A few weeks ago I was still thinking what's the point and does this have to be forever and I remember your blogs months ago when you were feeling a bit low too and we've pulled each other through it, we are amazing, yay! Thank God we weren't both faltering at the same time, lol! I know I never want to go back to where I was and that keeps me positive. Am loving this pink cloud and fields of bunnies! Take care my lovely friend and thank you for being there xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-66541554858892874132018-07-11T14:16:13.484-07:002018-07-11T14:16:13.484-07:00It was very stressful wasn't it!! I was very s...It was very stressful wasn't it!! I was very sad we didn't win but it's not the end of the world hey? Will message again properly tomorrow as I'm really tired and have had a hell of a day at work. Take care and big hugs xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-74102820927522967842018-07-11T12:15:21.079-07:002018-07-11T12:15:21.079-07:00PPS. I can't take this football match tonight....PPS. I can't take this football match tonight. ITS TOO DAMN STRESSFUL!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-49291250280303266082018-07-10T12:47:36.408-07:002018-07-10T12:47:36.408-07:00Ps yes i would have talked all kinds of rubbish at...Ps yes i would have talked all kinds of rubbish at the Wedding if I'd been drinking, been the last one there annoying everyone...Or like you said, if driving I would have been miserable and felt deprived all night. What a life I am so glad to be free of.... I LOVE saying I don't drink now when people offer me one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-63923015025369437812018-07-10T12:43:58.447-07:002018-07-10T12:43:58.447-07:00Hello my fab pal! What a nightmare the posts were ...Hello my fab pal! What a nightmare the posts were not going on. That's exactly what happened to me while I was in Italy. I thought we had maxed out the message. Whatever happens we'll always go on Clare's latest post like you have just done. Yes ditto. I keep checking my gmail account. I never use it and it's full of marketing crap. I always normally use the work one. Yes the Wedding was fab and everyone was pissed. I had a great evening and everyone was in admiration that I've stopped and saying they that they wish the could. It's an amazing feeling isn't it? I'm so glad you went out and enjoyed it as I know that was something you haven't relished in the past. Is absolutely bloody fantastic that we are both where we are now. Totally free. And don't ever look back Meggie. It's wasted energy. You plough that energy into your new fab life. What's important is that we made a stand. Not a sacrifice. Looking forward to sending you a WhatsApp very soon!!! Will think of you when the football is on tomorrow. Becks blue I think!!!! TTFN big hugs xxxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-64198852968770875272018-07-10T12:30:42.653-07:002018-07-10T12:30:42.653-07:00Phew, that worked. After a time.
Can't wait t...Phew, that worked. After a time. <br />Can't wait to WhatsApp, think that's much safer! Oh wow about your daughter winning the achievement award, bet you were SO proud, good for you, you deserve it. And I'm glad the wedding was good and that you enjoyed it AF and I bet you felt fab when people noticed your weight loss. And we won the footie too, yay, fab results all round!! I'm really glad you had such a lovely time at the wedding and didn't miss it at all, I must say I socialised recently and enjoyed it being AF, I made more of an effort to hold a proper conversation whereas before if I had been drinking I would have been pissed and yapped away aimlessly or if I had been driving I would have been on edge as I wasn't drinking. But now I feel past all that now, I just don't need it, I still can't believe I am where I am! And you are clearly in such a good place too. I know we shouldn't look back but I so regret being such a slave to the booze but at least I've kicked it into touch now. Take care and fingers crossed for the footie tomorrow. And fingers crossed this posts!! I probably posted my last message somewhere stupid, lol. Biggest hugs my lovely friend xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-26928724243991947782018-07-10T12:11:53.503-07:002018-07-10T12:11:53.503-07:00So, I messaged you on Sunday and I'm positive ...So, I messaged you on Sunday and I'm positive it posted. Then I kept checking the number of comments and they hadn't increased so I assumed you hadn't replied then I noticed today mine wasn't there and my blood went cold! so I did a test one which didn't post so panicked and wrote one on SM's latest but then came back to this one and I can see the test one I posted earlier has gone on, phew!!! Hope this all makes sense?! Am going to post this now then continue as I'm paranoid I'm gonna lose it xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-39002612493815305212018-07-10T11:09:59.662-07:002018-07-10T11:09:59.662-07:00Hey lovely, I'm just doing a test message as I...Hey lovely, I'm just doing a test message as I posted one to you on Sunday but I've just gone back in and it's not there, grhhh as it took me ages!! I dunno where it went?! Will just make sure this posts before I start again xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-6066200121177146612018-07-08T04:01:41.138-07:002018-07-08T04:01:41.138-07:00Pps HAPPY BIRTHDAY for this week!!!!! Have a super...Pps HAPPY BIRTHDAY for this week!!!!! Have a super day xxx Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-65901189692992619912018-07-08T03:54:46.494-07:002018-07-08T03:54:46.494-07:00Ps sorry the text doesn't make any sense in pl...Ps sorry the text doesn't make any sense in places. I type so fast and didn't check it before I sent it. I'm crap at that! XxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-21001869013279896572018-07-08T03:51:44.414-07:002018-07-08T03:51:44.414-07:00Hello my love. I've emailed Clare! Let's h...Hello my love. I've emailed Clare! Let's hope doesn't mind! Yesterday was lovely. Firstly because my daughter won the outstanding achievement award for her year at her graduation day. I could have burst!! And joint secondly, because we won the football and the Wedding was fab!! This place was charging 4.85 a bottle for AF Heineken!!! Unreal. But it was really good and everyone was drunk at the end of the night. I people watched like anything and everyone was in total admiration that I've given up and commented on my weight loss no end. Some people I hadn't seen for a year and they were so taken aback. Yes good idea. Let's chat about friends on WhatsApp. Like you I can see a future and am so happy without the drink now. I'm calmer and focus on what's important. I've always said of friendships, if they are hard work, i.e one sided and difficult, don't have them. Friendships shouldn't be difficult. I'm so so happy for you Meggie. That you are feeling so good. I always knew you would get to that point and I'm so you are there now. Of course we will both have our moments but these will be minimal and short lived. Not at any point last night did I feel I was missing out or tempted to drink. I laughed like I always had and genuinely enjoyed seeing everyone. You don't need booze to make you happy. I've got no hangover today and can enjoy this glorious weather for what it is, instead of staying in bed so day feeling like crap. Have a lovely day my fab pal. Next time we speak, it maybe on our numbers!!! I'm excited about that. Mwah xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-2637463585309001472018-07-07T13:37:05.772-07:002018-07-07T13:37:05.772-07:00I don't think my fingers crossed emoji worked!...I don't think my fingers crossed emoji worked!Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-40755073772289829212018-07-07T13:35:53.508-07:002018-07-07T13:35:53.508-07:00Ps I have just emailed SoberMummy and asked if she...Ps I have just emailed SoberMummy and asked if she would mind passing on your details to me so just email her when you can and let's hope she doesn't mind �� xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-33017708835964340712018-07-07T10:45:50.036-07:002018-07-07T10:45:50.036-07:00Hey lovely, I hope the wedding went well and hope ...Hey lovely, I hope the wedding went well and hope you got to see the footie, what a fab match! I really do believe it's coming home.<br />I'm sorry that your friends are being a bit mean and are upsetting you. I think it probably is us who are changing rather than them. Have you explained to them fully why you had to quit? And the true extent of your drinking problem? Maybe they are finding you much more sensible and they are probably a teeny bit envious too? I have had problems with friends, will explain a couple of issues I've had with them when we WhatsApp as I don't really want to put it here. Like you my priorities are shifting, I can see what is more important in life and that's my family. I also feel that I am losing a couple of friends, but am also gaining others along the way, you and a lady from an evening class whom I've never drunk with, it's more a social lunch or coffee with her and not getting hammered which is the norm with all my other friends. I mean 'was' the norm. But I feel happier than I have for a long time, healthier, look better and feel more at peace with myself and I never, ever want to go back to where I was. And I know you are the same. I feel so lucky we have met as I feel you so understand me whereas no-one else really does. Hope you have had a fantastic day my lovely friend and take care xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-29935589483339670592018-07-06T14:15:36.806-07:002018-07-06T14:15:36.806-07:00Hello my love. Yes that would be brill and I use W...Hello my love. Yes that would be brill and I use WhatsApp all the time so perfect!! I can drop her an email Sunday evening. She can send it on to you. I hope she doesn't mind doing it. I know what you mean about friends. I'm having a bit of a tough time with a couple of my close friends right now. We have known each other for donkeys years but some things have happened over the last year and in the days of the booze, would have put up with it and the treading on eggshells, people pleasing (to a point) and all that. Since I've ditched the drink, am seeing and feeling things 100%. I no longer want to do the pattern that has been in existence for such a long time and can't help but create a small but increasing distance. They are quite frosty with me now although I've done nothing wrong. For the first time since I was a kid, I'm discovering who I really am. Decades of drinking stopped that and I feel I do need a lot of space. Having to face problems from start to finish without reaching for the bottle and with a clear head, I'm still learning you know? But I think for them, I no longer meet their needs and feel they see me as some kind of weirdo. It's very sad. I saw one of then recently and she was saying how stressed she was over something. I told her she shouldn't worry about it and it will all work out fine. She said to me 'oh yeah, you don't get stressed anymore'. I should have asked her what she meant by it but could see she was gearing for a confrontation. She asked me what I was up to and I told her all the things we have going on and she said 'I'll see you next year then'. I was hurt by that. Before giving up I'd always be doing the socials or helping out - anything. But now I'm putting myself and my family first, it doesn't seem to be going down well. I know friendships do sometimes just drift apart and what I'm doing isn't personal. And I am changing. How I view things. I feel like I've been watching my life at full speed - and now I've hit the pause button. Looking in for the first time. In all honesty they haven't changed at all. They are still the same. It's me that has changed and the boundaries are changing on my part and they don't seem to like it. My husband has told me I am so much calmer now and the mood swings have all but gone. I used to blame it om PMT, work, you name it. It was never the booze. It goes way beyond just getting drunk. That stuff has so much to answer for. Thank you again Meggie for everything. You too, give me a boost and never judge me. You are a breath of fresh air! Have a super weekend. I will post the email to Clare - let's see what happens!!!! I will let you know on here the antics of what the Wedding brings!! I can watch with my bottle of Becks Blue, and drive home!!! Heaps of love to you my pal xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-6809784740172534292018-07-06T12:56:09.529-07:002018-07-06T12:56:09.529-07:00Hello lovely, glad I make you smile and I'm pl...Hello lovely, glad I make you smile and I'm pleased you feel I've helped you through this although you have always sounded so very determined to me even when you were feeling down. You have helped me so much, it's so nice who to have someone who totally understands me and doesn't judge me. God I can so identify with that merry-go-round of getting pissed, having a dreadful hangover, hating myself then I'd be back on it to make myself feel better; bloody Groundhog day. But we are now free of that FOREVER and we are SO strong and amazing!! And yes, those with a drink problem will be envious of us, I was always envious of people who could take or leave alcohol. And yes, let's get in touch with Clare and swap mobile numbers, that will be fab. I'm best on WhatsApp as we have pathetic mobile coverage here. Shall we both email her say on Sunday night so she gets our emails about the same time? Not sure when you will read this as I know you are busy with the wedding this weekend. I know Clare's v busy so it might take a while for her to sort it so best to continue here in the meantime. I hope you have a super time at the wedding and enjoy watching others getting wasted and making idiots of themselves and then suffering the next day, lol!! And I bet you will look and feel amazing, have a ball, you've worked so hard for this and you deserve every happiness sobriety brings you ❤ Biggest hugs my lovely xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-55384210773879495272018-07-05T15:23:44.373-07:002018-07-05T15:23:44.373-07:00Ps. People will be jealous of someone who can do s...Ps. People will be jealous of someone who can do something that they do not have the strength/willpower to do. Whether it's envy in admiration or otherwise. It's human nature.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-32225463729076594352018-07-05T15:12:28.172-07:002018-07-05T15:12:28.172-07:00Oh Meggie your posts do make me laugh and bring a ...Oh Meggie your posts do make me laugh and bring a smile! Always!! It's so freshing. Isn't it the best thing ever when you see someone hanging, knowing that you are no longer in their shoes and totally free! You've done all the hard work and put in amazing effort and now you are feeling on top form. That is your reward my girl. I couldn't imagine having a drink now. I hear you about the boozy lunches and the laughs, sitting around talking any old rubbish. But for me it always went beyond that. I'd carry on drinking way after they'd all left and would feel lost and out of control, hating myself. Hungover and depressed the next day I'd be drinking again by lunchtime to get rid of the crippling hangover - and before I knew it, it would be evening and I'd be pissed again. What a merrygoround. I remember the all inclusive holidays - drinking from morning til night, eating everything in sight. I always think that if people don't have a problem about something, they don't go on about it. It's when they try and justify something to themselves that you know that they know that something isn't right. So you keep smiling away to yourself. You've done an incredible thing. And stop saying you are nowhere near down the line as I am. You are! Days/months - it doesn't matter. What matters is you are in a good place and going from strength to strength. You've always been with me on this. Somehow you were always meant to. I don't know how I would have managed without you. I may even have buckled. Who knows. I can't thank you enough. And yes someone is definitely going to think Easter hols is popular! Do you think Clare checks all of these? Should we get her involved and swap email or phone nos? If you don't want to that's 100% completely fine - no pressure. I am more than happy to keep chatting away on here. Love you to my little star!! XxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com