tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post3451470205413964824..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: Hole in the SoulSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-67794726262488377982015-06-26T00:40:18.639-07:002015-06-26T00:40:18.639-07:00Great quote! I've just ordered the book. Thnx ...Great quote! I've just ordered the book. Thnx xxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-87418078231697617462015-06-25T22:50:35.430-07:002015-06-25T22:50:35.430-07:00Not sure about my soul, I definitely felt differen...Not sure about my soul, I definitely felt different as a child, I was bullied a lot and was never part of the ' in crowd' though was desperate to be. Maybe that's the hole. <br />I'm reading the amy hatvany book best kept secret. Something struck with me last night that relates well to this. The character (alcoholic) is advised that she needs the right emotional skills to manage her feelings and that's what she needs to learn to do. She asks ' how do I do that? ' the response ... 'feel them'exploring something elsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18219025240966527047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-81750054455919974082015-06-25T17:38:19.411-07:002015-06-25T17:38:19.411-07:00What the hell is that hole in the soul? I drink or...What the hell is that hole in the soul? I drink or let's say I drunk because I simply loved it. I enjoyed it. It was fun. It relaxed me and made me numb. It turned me into someone I am not. Time and the Bottlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07494924226427441030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-54362722223185301512015-06-25T13:43:59.779-07:002015-06-25T13:43:59.779-07:00I never felt the hole in the soul, until perhaps t...I never felt the hole in the soul, until perhaps the end when I was honestly suicidal and deeply depressed and just wanted things to end.<br />I had a regular upbringing. I am intelligent, pretty, active, personable.<br /><br />But I have always felt different. I had an emotionally abusive mom and I was very anxious. My family has a history of depression. I clearly got those genes. I was an extremely perfectionist over achiever. In a tiring and hard way.<br /><br />Still working on that. But my soul is whole!Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-60728977095877197172015-06-25T11:04:43.857-07:002015-06-25T11:04:43.857-07:00Part of our "problem" is that we don'...Part of our "problem" is that we don't see ourselves as "proper" alcoholics. No poverty, no abuse, no trauma....and other people are dismissive - bored self absorbed middle class women sipping cocktails in the afternoon,and then bleating on about their 'addictions"....yep, feel exactly the same, and then we wonder if we made it all up to excuse bad behaviour, or lack of motivation and then carry on pouring the wine....it's the same old attitude that people have about depression - I remember my mother saying once "what on earth has she got to be depressed about....". It's why we only see documentaries about certain segments of the population and "problem drinking", and why there are alcoholic stereotypes - lots of us are frightened and addicted, but because alcohol dependency is seen as a symptom/reason of something else........if we don't have that reason, we must be weak, stupid or..... hurrah! we don't have a problem- pass the wine, lets celebrate. The alcohol is the problem. Its addictive. It doesn't matter why we picked up the wine in the first place, the physical addiction to the liquid is the same. We need to change the conversation.<br />Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09236064383725290818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-84524884459472571882015-06-25T06:41:16.255-07:002015-06-25T06:41:16.255-07:00So true KM! One thing I've learned is that gen...So true KM! One thing I've learned is that generalisations are both untrue and unhelpful! XxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-24211537839280482762015-06-25T06:36:20.216-07:002015-06-25T06:36:20.216-07:00Thank God, I read on to the middle of your blog. ...Thank God, I read on to the middle of your blog. I was about to leave you at the whole hole in the soul theory because I've seen too many people tell themselves they aren't alcoholics because they don't have that hole in the soul. Including mwah.<br /><br />I was like you. A bright, sunny girl with loving parents. But from the time I took that first drink at the age of 14, as almost every child will, hole in soulness or not, I was looking for the next drink. And then I spent a whole lot of years telling myself I was too smart not to be able to figure out how to control my drinking.<br /><br />It doesn't matter who we are, it doesn't matter where we came from, what matters is that we're here.<br />Kary Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12674442468925628974noreply@blogger.com