tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post3313436546664894868..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: WaveringSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-77904474705142540822022-05-22T07:55:03.710-07:002022-05-22T07:55:03.710-07:00This is my story, a salutary tale of ever one was ...This is my story, a salutary tale of ever one was needed. I was sober for four years and was sabotaged by my husband teaming up with the wine witch in a deliberate campaign to get me drinking again. It has taken sixteen years of wine but here I am: day 4. So glad I found the support here on the blog (and the soberverse). Of all the sick twisted things my ex husband did to me, getting me to drink again was his greatest triumph. Now I intend to prevail. There is no such thing as one drink. I am an alcoholic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-80124418705287020392017-11-16T02:32:50.213-08:002017-11-16T02:32:50.213-08:00Day 111 here and feeling a bit flat. I’ve gone bac...Day 111 here and feeling a bit flat. I’ve gone back to your day 1 and am reading every post - i can’t begin to tell you what a help it is. H xxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-3563482178441262672016-10-29T02:22:09.228-07:002016-10-29T02:22:09.228-07:00Hello SM. I'm reading all your blogs from the ...Hello SM. I'm reading all your blogs from the start. I'm 16 days today and feeling good. Last time I got to 103 days and the WW started chatting again. I gave I n and it took me nearly three months to get back to being AF. I won't make that mistake again. Thank you for being you and your amazing blog xShazzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01066897457133945756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-49100274739557321662015-06-16T22:47:57.234-07:002015-06-16T22:47:57.234-07:00Hi SM...you'll know from an email I sent you a...Hi SM...you'll know from an email I sent you a while back that it's bloody hard to get back on wagon...I was AF for 6 months. I gave in to the voicecin my head for two weeks. Got straight back on the wagon & it's so much harder now. I wish I hadn't listened to the voice. It's a trick. XxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092740760918305128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-54447050926304688742015-06-16T22:47:55.166-07:002015-06-16T22:47:55.166-07:00Hi SM...you'll know from an email I sent you a...Hi SM...you'll know from an email I sent you a while back that it's bloody hard to get back on wagon...I was AF for 6 months. I gave in to the voicecin my head for two weeks. Got straight back on the wagon & it's so much harder now. I wish I hadn't listened to the voice. It's a trick. XxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092740760918305128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-65847912989610313692015-06-16T22:47:48.693-07:002015-06-16T22:47:48.693-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092740760918305128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-62544944761909975892015-06-16T22:44:24.730-07:002015-06-16T22:44:24.730-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092740760918305128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-91637976656552826492015-06-16T22:43:58.997-07:002015-06-16T22:43:58.997-07:00Hi SM...you'll know from an email I sent you a...Hi SM...you'll know from an email I sent you a while back that it's bloody hard to get back on wagon...I was AF for 6 months. I gave in to the voicecin my head for two weeks. Got straight back on the wagon & it's so much harder now. I wish I hadn't listened to the voice. It's a trick. XxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092740760918305128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-81753090813907196852015-06-16T00:55:18.886-07:002015-06-16T00:55:18.886-07:00Completely agree I was always a "happy" ...Completely agree I was always a "happy" drinker. Well I was before I started the wine but then miserable by the end of the bottle. Even more stupid really when I think of it like that.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17395865653657222899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-83335117516044439442015-06-15T22:34:40.082-07:002015-06-15T22:34:40.082-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Suburban Bettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16764448878081819705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-70471987790054496162015-06-15T22:34:15.474-07:002015-06-15T22:34:15.474-07:00Was just having that same tedious argument in my h...Was just having that same tedious argument in my head!! It's like arguing with a very persistent and naughty teenager who very badly wants her way. Haha!Suburban Bettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16764448878081819705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-68894317742833650992015-06-15T15:27:07.024-07:002015-06-15T15:27:07.024-07:00Hi Penny -
I've had the same problem as you. ...Hi Penny - <br />I've had the same problem as you. I quit drinking and actually gained weight - ugh! I have started weight watchers, and have lost about 7 pounds, but am not down the weight I have gained (and I still have a way to go from there). For me, I think I placed one addictive behavior with another...going from drinking to overeating (mostly unhealthy sweets). Much like my drinking, my eating was without abandon, noshing I whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. It's almost like I felt like I had to have that one area in my life where I can have a complete release - before it was drinking, then it switched to food. Even now on weight watchers, I have to battle with what I eat. I CRAVE sweet foods and have to fight hard not to eat them, often times losing the battle, even though I know eating them is not serving me or what I want for myself...it's a compulsion, driving me to eat. Good Lord - I sound totally crazy! Writing down/tracking what I eat has proven helpful and made me more aware. Another strategy that has helped some is planning for meals, etc. Good luck on your journey!WineColoredMemorieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03436713592666759474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-57794857438484097592015-06-15T15:20:58.233-07:002015-06-15T15:20:58.233-07:00Wow... you have basically written down the exact i...Wow... you have basically written down the exact internal dialogue that has been running through my head! "You're not an alcoholic because you never _____", as well as the whole boring thing - I've been feeling bored of myself! I also think, maybe I should try drinking one more time, just to make sure. But, in reality, I know that I don't even want to try to attempt to moderate - I want to have as much chardonnay as I want, when I want it! I think you are right though, other "normal" drinkers wouldn't be having these conversations with themselves, reading and writing sober blogs, reading books about sobriety, etc. Keep on keeping on SoberMummy - you have a gift for writing!WineColoredMemorieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03436713592666759474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-64359561622448231232015-06-15T15:16:51.889-07:002015-06-15T15:16:51.889-07:00Hi Penny! Huge congrats on 42 days - awesome work!...Hi Penny! Huge congrats on 42 days - awesome work! The weight thing is complex. I read loads from people who develop a huge sweet tooth. I haven't too badly (certainly not enough to counteract the decrease in wine calories), but even so I've lost no weight in the last month. I lost 8 pounds in the first 2 months (v gradually!) <br />My theory is that we've hugely screwed our metabolisms and it takes a while to start functioning efficiently again. I'm sure exercise helps.<br />I'll do some research and then post on it, but in the meantime if anyone else can advise it'd be much appreciated! XxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-77916224593310117082015-06-15T14:01:06.669-07:002015-06-15T14:01:06.669-07:00I still get it 3 and a bit years on and I don'...I still get it 3 and a bit years on and I don't think it ever really goes away. I think on my first reply to you a few weeks ago I was feeling quite pissed off. Doesn't mean I'll act on it. It's normal to have those feelings. Not helped by effing 'wine, and special for summer, Pimms o'clock' everywhere. My psychiatrist told me to beware most of the days you're feeling happy, the summer days maybe when you are relaxed and guard is down and everyone's enjoying a drink apart from you.<br />There's no timetable for this, you've just got to try to keep going, a day, maybe an hour at a time. Xxmoosey45https://www.blogger.com/profile/07083726694510498110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-82289018498262726772015-06-15T13:07:25.445-07:002015-06-15T13:07:25.445-07:00I'm the same Penny. Although I do enjoy chocol...I'm the same Penny. Although I do enjoy chocolate and sweet treats but not enough to replace my calories from wine (plus I'm working out!) xLushNoMorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04018195957277312286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-55969354091626029072015-06-15T11:29:40.330-07:002015-06-15T11:29:40.330-07:00Hi SM
42 days without a drink and I'm doing we...Hi SM<br />42 days without a drink and I'm doing well, and without a doubt, I would not be here were it not for your wonderful, honest blogs, Soberistas and Mrs D. We're so lucky to have the internet which gives us access to the insights and wisdoms of these brave, articulate women - thank you so much.<br /><br />There is one topic I am struggling with, and that is the vexed issue of weight. Whilst my head is so much clearer, my waistline seems to be expanding, and I don't know why. I've not done a nose-dive into chocolate - or at least, no more than it did before I stopped drinking, nor has my diet changed much. Surely the absence of the calorific value of 7 bottles of wine a week should be making a difference by now?? Your thought/insights/wisdom on this subject would be much appreciated.<br /><br />Much love<br />PennyPennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08821141578181223538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-39448402855360711622015-06-15T08:52:59.705-07:002015-06-15T08:52:59.705-07:00There is no such thing as a real alcoholic.
But th...There is no such thing as a real alcoholic.<br />But there are many of us ex wine drinkers whose life just is better sober.<br />Hold on to the better. <br />AnneAinsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-55216203075445098712015-06-15T07:38:05.138-07:002015-06-15T07:38:05.138-07:00She's sneaky, that old Wine Witch! Blog her to...She's sneaky, that old Wine Witch! Blog her to death!! xxJackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09236064383725290818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-19706606015514530142015-06-15T04:39:47.802-07:002015-06-15T04:39:47.802-07:00I can see it clearly now. That voice is the wine w...I can see it clearly now. That voice is the wine witch in disguise. I hadn't really appreciated that until this blog. I've been having the same conversation this weekend. She is so devious. Now we're ignoring her she's changed her attack. I was sober for 13 days over christmas (this was before my 100 day challenge) after a horrendus 'mad friday'. It didn't bother me not drinking over the festive season as I was so ashamed (and probably suffering from alcohol poisoning) of my recent bender. I had this same conversation and the WW promided that if moderation didn't work then I would just give up again. One drink led to another.....2 months later I was on the bottom floor. I don't think I've hit rock bottom yet but if I had carried on drinking it would only have been a matter of time. Stay strong. xLushNoMorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04018195957277312286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-73515760615034352982015-06-15T03:54:12.844-07:002015-06-15T03:54:12.844-07:00Don't drink.Don't drink. Kats76https://www.blogger.com/profile/18385975686360944534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-17741888986077503642015-06-15T03:52:25.699-07:002015-06-15T03:52:25.699-07:00omg! I felt the exact same way this weekend! The...omg! I felt the exact same way this weekend! The only thing that stopped me from listening to those damn voices was the number 169! I'm not losing my days of sobriety....not if I can help it.<br />HugsSober Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07649895813093622930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-75073877176476659012015-06-15T03:51:25.867-07:002015-06-15T03:51:25.867-07:00omg! I felt the exact same way this weekend! The...omg! I felt the exact same way this weekend! The only thing that stopped me from listening to those damn voices was the number 169! I'm not losing my days of sobriety....not if I can help it.<br />HugsSober Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07649895813093622930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-52263746700527487512015-06-15T03:40:56.872-07:002015-06-15T03:40:56.872-07:00Very selfishly I don't want you to give in to ...Very selfishly I don't want you to give in to the evil WW as then she will have more ammunition the next time she whispers in my ear xxxnic17https://www.blogger.com/profile/07657771716793728472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-38239047035948907872015-06-15T03:13:52.645-07:002015-06-15T03:13:52.645-07:00Thanks for a brilliantly laid out conversation tha...Thanks for a brilliantly laid out conversation that I agree we all have with the wine witch and super well done for arguing it out! A strong reason not to go backwards and try moderating again is that the likelyhood is that you end up drinking even more than you did before and it's A LOT harder to get sober again after that! Stay strong and please keep blogging - I love your daily updates!! Big hugs, Nikki xxxNikkinutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16119777185431034178noreply@blogger.com