tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post1740520461696667239..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: Role ModelsSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-52518889739448686402015-10-11T16:25:59.272-07:002015-10-11T16:25:59.272-07:00I am desperately trying to catch up with this blog...I am desperately trying to catch up with this blog but still on April - anyway felt compelled to respond to this post. I also loved AbFab - watching it in the JCR of my college with at least 40 girls and copious amounts of vodka (shot of the time then). I have loved Bolly ever since.<br /><br />However, my role model came from another TV program that had a huge effect on the way I viewed alcohol - It was called Thirtysomething. <br /><br />It was a US series where people in their 30's battled with life problems and my teenage self thought they were all so grown up and "free" that I wanted to be them. And I noticed that when they were dealing with the latest problem, they would always crack open the wine! This made a lasting impression with me as my ambition when doing my A-levels was to live in London, in my own flat where I was able to come home after work, open the fridge and pour myself a lovely glass of Chardonnay (nothing else then - Asti Spumante didn't have the same allure). <br /><br />This, to me, was the height of sophistication and a sign that I had made it - a successful adult. Little did I know but alcohol has featured ever since when I have been dealing with problems until it became THE problem.<br /><br />These alcohol abundant role models are still on TV (Brothers and Sisters, The Good Wife etc etc) and will still be there to make an impression on our kids so I totally agree that the best way to provide positive influences for our kids is from the home BUT I also think they need to know how we suffered. I, therefore, hope that I will be able to, some day, talk to them about my problem (once I have come to terms with it and the secrecy and shame of it) - that is why, SM, your blog is so good. If your kids ever ask, you can direct them to all the archives so that they can see how problematic alcohol was (in real time) and how your strength provided them with a much better mother and supporter.RDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05354655978407722561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-62006625943419864382015-05-02T00:50:28.589-07:002015-05-02T00:50:28.589-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Red (RedRecovers)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05049627141004901254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-75344549178666055942015-05-02T00:18:03.600-07:002015-05-02T00:18:03.600-07:00Love this... I also loved AbFab, and wanted to &qu...Love this... I also loved AbFab, and wanted to "grow up" to be Patsy. On viewing the compilation, I'd forgotten how tragic they really were. And SO much booze. I also want to set my three kids a good example, perhaps I'll turn into Saffy after all!!! Red (RedRecovers)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05049627141004901254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-23355409712185872862015-04-30T16:53:57.986-07:002015-04-30T16:53:57.986-07:00Dear SM,
Way to go on day 60!
I am glad you are be...Dear SM,<br />Way to go on day 60!<br />I am glad you are being a good role model for your children!<br />So important!<br />xo<br />Wendy<br />Untipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-7847060730495084102015-04-30T13:56:59.073-07:002015-04-30T13:56:59.073-07:00Hi CB, and huge congrats on 7 days! Thanks so much...Hi CB, and huge congrats on 7 days! Thanks so much for your comments - I've been feeling really grumpy this evening, so you really cheered me up! Hugs SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-60230146579645439852015-04-30T12:44:58.229-07:002015-04-30T12:44:58.229-07:00Day 7 for me guys! I am a bit irritable this week ...Day 7 for me guys! I am a bit irritable this week but not as bad as when I have a hangover! Your blog is great SoberMummy and I look forward to reading it each day. I too loved Ab Fab and quite admired Eddie and Patsy in the 1990's. The re runs were recently shown on Sky and the alcohol involved was rather shocking really when you look back! I think the irony of the comedy is that nobody would really want to be like them though as they often were quite tragic figures in some episodes. Keep up the fantastic work on the blog! And thank you again for your anecdotes they are fab! <br /><br />CB xxxCrazybirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05974350405983381457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-72119298371519222212015-04-30T10:23:28.598-07:002015-04-30T10:23:28.598-07:00Welcome neinwine, and huge congrats! I was exhaust...Welcome neinwine, and huge congrats! I was exhausted initially - don't worry, it'll get better soon! And the hangover feeling is detoxing. I bet you'll feel physically fine in a few days - then you just need to keep working on your head ;-). I still haven't 'come out' to friends. I don't feel ready yet to deal with all the questions. For the moment I say that I'm driving/detoxing/giving up 'for a bit'. Stay in touch, and big hugs xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-66582339884286217642015-04-30T10:14:45.869-07:002015-04-30T10:14:45.869-07:00Thank you Sober Mummy! I have taken the plunge an...Thank you Sober Mummy! I have taken the plunge and I am on day 6. I was looking to cut down on my drinking about a month ago and I ran across your blog. I have been reading ever since. On your recommendation, I have read Jason Vale and Allen Carr's books. I followed those by reading Craig Beck's book, Alcohol Lied to Me, and The Sober Revolution by Sarah Turner and Lucy Rocca. Finally I received the message I needed to hear.....time to stop! My story is similar to yours. I am a stay at home mom of three (across the pond in America) and wine o'clock has been a regular time of day in my social circles. I am feeling so tired (and hungover oddly) these last few days and slept later this morning then I have in years. I went back and read your day 6 post and felt relieved to see what you had written. I am stressing a bit about what to say to friends. I am curious to know how you have handled that situation.neinwinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03432419093447903474noreply@blogger.com