tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post8814879196111953516..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: MortalitySoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-33604438064914337582016-03-17T01:12:57.225-07:002016-03-17T01:12:57.225-07:00SM I can't imagine how you must be feeling. T...SM I can't imagine how you must be feeling. To paraphrase the Peanuts cartoon, one day you will die, but on all the other days you won't. Enjoy your holiday with Mr SM who I hope is spoiling you rotten. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03384586539207057247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-12034178958673161772016-03-16T14:12:02.755-07:002016-03-16T14:12:02.755-07:00Hi Kate, and thanks so much for your words. It rea...Hi Kate, and thanks so much for your words. It really helps hearing that the fear fades. I am truly thankful that I quit drinking before the diagnosis. I never could have done it afterwards, and I'd be a really big mess right now ;-) Thanks again xxxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-2403058773380270672016-03-16T13:46:37.835-07:002016-03-16T13:46:37.835-07:00Hi there: I have to totally agree with Sober at 53...Hi there: I have to totally agree with Sober at 53. I had stage 2a hormone positive breast cancer with just enough evidence in three nodes to buy me six months of chemo and a bilateral mastectomy (the only upside of the whole ordeal -- bigger boobs!!). That was eight years ago. You're less than a year out, and at that point, I thought I would never, ever get free of the fear again. But now, days, even weeks go by and I don't think about it. That said, I truly believe there is an element of PTSD that goes with the territory. It is such a random disease and hits most of us out of the blue. I think I spend a lot more time thinking that every twinge or bump is cancer than most people. And it was a few years before I felt good about making long term plans (I thought it tempted the cancer gods). That said, I drank before, during, and for six-plus years after the treatment, and my ability to come to peace with the damn disease (or at least a nervous truce) really didn't come until I put down the bottle. Only then could I get where it sounds like you are now -- appreciating this moment. I'm not sick right now, it is beautiful outside, I have a nice place to work, etc. Yes, we will all die, but I am not dead right now. And, because I am sober, I am able to enjoy and experience this alive time right now. So, besides the physical health benefits of not drinking, I think your sobriety is probably allowing you a level of mental/spiritual healing that too many survivors don't and might never have.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04703729141739815944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-17678067158665393132016-03-16T03:58:24.487-07:002016-03-16T03:58:24.487-07:00Thank you! I love that sponsorship story - I'v...Thank you! I love that sponsorship story - I've been hanging onto it! XxxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-52473125916151691982016-03-15T20:27:52.651-07:002016-03-15T20:27:52.651-07:00Having been a hormone positive Stage 1 breast canc...Having been a hormone positive Stage 1 breast cancer survivor for 11 years now, I can tell you that you will not always think about your mortality. Your diagnosis and treatment is all very recent for you. I promise you that, one day, it will not be in your thoughts each day. After a bunch of years had gone by since my diagnosis, someone asked me to sponsor them for a breast cancer walk. I said "what a great cause!" Totally forgetting in that moment that I had had breast cancer! And this, even while still taking medication to keep the beast at bay! And 11 years later I am still taking medication. You know, if your recurrence risk is 4% then you have a 96% chance of NOT having it come back! Still, a healthy lifestyle probably even makes that an even better 96%!!! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-56272850474235405082016-03-15T15:35:10.160-07:002016-03-15T15:35:10.160-07:00SM, it sounds like you are in a beautiful place to...SM, it sounds like you are in a beautiful place to practice mindfulness, to embrace the joys of the sun, the sand, the birdsong and the waves. Mortality will still be waiting for you on your return, for now, seize the joy of living with both hands and dance the night away. xxSWMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08695623151674239441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-81200076005185602872016-03-15T12:22:58.951-07:002016-03-15T12:22:58.951-07:00How timely your post is once again SM. I have alwa...How timely your post is once again SM. I have always had a fear of death but at the moment it seems to be off the scale!<br />I am trying to keep rational with plans to live life to the fullest but the fear has other ideas....<br />Hoping it's all part of the big flush out still continuing at week 12 AF. xxScous Moushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10067391373243115713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-25029826453958718682016-03-15T11:10:19.929-07:002016-03-15T11:10:19.929-07:00PS your hotel sounds wonderful - have googled it!!...PS your hotel sounds wonderful - have googled it!!Midlifecrisishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00480083841595444048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-75702472866386200812016-03-15T09:02:31.441-07:002016-03-15T09:02:31.441-07:00What really stands out from this is the enjoy the ...What really stands out from this is the enjoy the joy of living - leap in, embrace it!Muddling Alonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04702217530704657676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-35710551589296366722016-03-15T07:42:19.218-07:002016-03-15T07:42:19.218-07:00Hi mlf! I'm so sorry about your Mum. Dementia ...Hi mlf! I'm so sorry about your Mum. Dementia is a terrible disease. You're right, some cancers are totally random (esp childhood cancers), but recent research suggests that 80-90% are related to 'lifestyle factors' - smoking, drinking, diet, obesity, etc xxxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-81604547834352236522016-03-15T07:36:43.183-07:002016-03-15T07:36:43.183-07:00I can't pretend to know what you really are go...I can't pretend to know what you really are going through, but my mom survived breast cancer at 69 and is now turning 75. She lives her life with smiles and hugs. I think this is a very strong preventive measure on her part. "Just do it now...", such great advice.Lia Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13211861233662358798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-85105957485893898992016-03-15T07:17:34.373-07:002016-03-15T07:17:34.373-07:00When my mum got dementia and then died (a year and...When my mum got dementia and then died (a year and a half later) I got obsessed with the idea of an old age where I wasn't mobile, didn't have awareness,etc etc. I totally get where you're coming from. And to be honest, haven't got round it yet. Add to that empty nesting! SM, you write so wonderfully, and I don't want to take anything away.. but isn't there something about some cancers being completely random? and there's a helico circulating around which always makes me think of a lost child and therefore losing it...<br /><br /> Midlifecrisishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00480083841595444048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-13242081760304669332016-03-15T06:15:36.302-07:002016-03-15T06:15:36.302-07:00I love where you end up with this. I'm never...I love where you end up with this. I'm never sure I live my life as to the full as I should but then whatever - I don't waste time being maudlin about the fact that in the end I will die some point.<br />I've had a minor health issue recently - I've just had my lunch - vegetarian lasagne and salad... now a few months ago that would never have been the choice du jour! I drink far far less fizzy drinks either those with loads of sugar or those with loads of awful chemicals to replace the sugar! I drink much more waterFurtheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-59692487010831178422016-03-15T06:13:28.895-07:002016-03-15T06:13:28.895-07:00Too right, EH! YOLO!Too right, EH! YOLO!SoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-1313281649742807692016-03-15T06:09:28.167-07:002016-03-15T06:09:28.167-07:00Oh and a favourite saying of their's is YOLO!!...Oh and a favourite saying of their's is YOLO!!! 'Come on mum YOLO!!!' You only live once xEdinburgh Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507850075300916316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-78696288076617816612016-03-15T06:08:01.546-07:002016-03-15T06:08:01.546-07:00It's funny how 'carpe diem' used to be...It's funny how 'carpe diem' used to be the excuse to overindulge and do exactly what we wanted but now it's something totally different. I feel the same and that is the main reason I stopped. I want to be here for my kids who are still so young xEdinburgh Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507850075300916316noreply@blogger.com