tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post7815133403756414985..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: BereavementSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-52215459454040197262015-11-23T07:11:05.282-08:002015-11-23T07:11:05.282-08:00Today is day 2 again!! The most I have managed is ...Today is day 2 again!! The most I have managed is 11 days and started to feel wonderful like you have mentioned in your posts but also started to bargain with myself that moderation was the way forward. I now know that is not true. This is so hard but reading your blogs gives me hope xx<br /><br />Nomorewinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00993453184851052886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-45340645906822331812015-07-26T02:08:57.889-07:002015-07-26T02:08:57.889-07:00I totally get that, I sat with my dad a few days a...I totally get that, I sat with my dad a few days ago whilst he took almost an hour and a half to drink one pint!!! I had 2 wines in that time but I was taking it very slow as didn't want to run to the bar a third time and highlight my need for wine.... it was soooo frustrating to watch! !!exploring something elsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18219025240966527047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-79772249601373905962015-07-24T02:13:33.564-07:002015-07-24T02:13:33.564-07:00I giggled at your description of number 2, i recal...I giggled at your description of number 2, i recall not that long ago, staring agog in amazement at a friend who took an hour.. an hour! to drink one glass of champagne. remember thinking I would have been on my 3rd by then, I couldn't believe it. Thank you for this post, great reinforcement for a relative newbie like myselfAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-77537036625396938672015-07-23T16:29:26.043-07:002015-07-23T16:29:26.043-07:00Great post SM. I think I alternate between the sta...Great post SM. I think I alternate between the stages too. I don't think I'm 100% at acceptance yet. But hopefully I'm getting there. Still early days for me. A xAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553400229726508527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-31735453909338477532015-07-23T14:47:46.652-07:002015-07-23T14:47:46.652-07:00I agree, Jackie. Also, I don't feel powerless....I agree, Jackie. Also, I don't feel powerless. I feel pretty damn powerful. I'm a newbie, too (90 days tomorrow!), so I know I may change my mind, need more support, or just want face time with like-minded people in the future. For now, I'm happy working my blogosphere program. Wendy Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12110655950633558010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-63041000910072037792015-07-23T11:35:24.441-07:002015-07-23T11:35:24.441-07:00I've been thinking about AA. I also re-read yo...I've been thinking about AA. I also re-read your blog about AA, SM. The problem I have with AA, is the whole "I'm Jackie and I'm an Alcoholic" for ever and ever. The idea that I am "in recovery" for ever. I know, in the great scheme of things that I am a newbie at this sober gig....but my goal is to be a "Non- drinker". I want people to not raise their eyebrows when I refuse wine, I want them to say, "Oh, that's right, you don't drink, sparkling water OK?". <br />I don't want to wipe out my past, it's just that I want it to teach me, not define me.Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09236064383725290818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-43854167563825005312015-07-23T08:30:43.120-07:002015-07-23T08:30:43.120-07:00I agree with a lot of that. It's definitely wo...I agree with a lot of that. It's definitely worth a try and always interesting. But I wonder why the format has never been updated. For instance, I find it quite annoying that one is not allowed to comment, ask a follow-up question for clarification or give advice or even encouragement in any way. I would put newcomers together in small, likeminded groups with a facilitator who is at least one year sober (like a sponsor, but for the group).Ullahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16422287349331460686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-72955797373720458282015-07-23T08:25:20.700-07:002015-07-23T08:25:20.700-07:00I imagine your local group in Chelsea will be like...I imagine your local group in Chelsea will be like a Who's Who of artists and politicians and business people. Who knows, it might be a tremendous networking opportunity ;-)Ullahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16422287349331460686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-72970904180058056432015-07-23T07:53:51.863-07:002015-07-23T07:53:51.863-07:00Yes. I think we need to mourn the loss of our old,...Yes. I think we need to mourn the loss of our old, familiar life, even if that life was killing us. It was still our comfort zone.<br />And I think even after reaching acceptance we move back into the other phases sometimes. And that's ok too. It doesn't mean we made the wrong decision to quit drinking. It just means something has reminded us of why we drank, and perhaps we remember it with rose coloured glasses.<br /><br />As for AA, I always encourage people to go to a meeting. I am not really an AA person, I have no sponsor and I worked through the steps mostly on my own, but meetings inspire me.<br /><br />There is no where else in the world where I have heard people speak with such honesty.<br /><br />Of course, some of what people say is idiotic, and there's lots of pride, ego and anger in there too, but that deep honesty brings me back.<br /><br />Plus, 12 step groups are so ingrained in our cultur that it seems like you would be missing out not to go when you actually belong!<br /><br />Just try one.Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-54550999727741914492015-07-23T06:06:07.773-07:002015-07-23T06:06:07.773-07:00Thanks, Ulla - I'm going to check it now! No, ...Thanks, Ulla - I'm going to check it now! No, I still haven't been to AA. Maybe I will after reading your post ;-) xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-10869085459968489802015-07-23T05:33:40.969-07:002015-07-23T05:33:40.969-07:00Have you been to an AA-meeting yet? Maybe you'...Have you been to an AA-meeting yet? Maybe you'll find my post on going helpful. I'm blogging on Soberistas as The Dane - being Danish an' all, very inventive.<br />http://soberistas.com/profiles/blogs/aa-a-mixed-bag<br />You are extremely helpful to me in the sense I mention in that post, because you are like me in many ways, same age, married, a mother, good background, educated etc. I even had a (short) career in advertising as a copy writer.Ullahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16422287349331460686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-66699074818031223492015-07-23T01:41:21.485-07:002015-07-23T01:41:21.485-07:00Great post. At a year sober I still alternate betw...Great post. At a year sober I still alternate between stages. Mainly 5, but some 4 too, and occasionally number 3 starts up again. Am really hoping the paws will lessen as I go through my second year of sobriety!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17395865653657222899noreply@blogger.com