tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post7570429868074870538..comments2024-03-12T21:21:33.457-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: Sad DaysSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-22286925775805843022016-01-21T00:36:05.707-08:002016-01-21T00:36:05.707-08:00Hi SM - I was ever so sad to read that you'd h...Hi SM - I was ever so sad to read that you'd had a sad day. You help so many of us and have been through so much recently - you don't deserve a sad day - and I hope you're feeling much less sad about it now. Everyone above seems to have their own opinion - so you prob don't need any more - but for what it's worth here's mine. (plus the flood of support above indicates just what an inspirational and important person you are to all of us; and I have no doubt to all your other friends). Throughout my life I've found that when people behave in an inconsiderate or nasty manner which just doesn't compute and it hurts to your core - before long you hear that they were actually going through some pretty bad shit and you sort of feel sorry for them (only sort of because you're still a bit miffed about the way you've been treated (!). In a short while you will prob find out that she's splitting up from her husband or the business isn't doing as well as she'd have hoped or something. And if she really is ignoring you, has no compassion for what you've been through - she isn't worth wasting your wonderful time on. You rock SM - how many times can I say thank you for helping me transform my life in this amazing way. Lots of love SFMSFMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10502581202279407407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-80893346557640509232016-01-18T10:11:02.249-08:002016-01-18T10:11:02.249-08:00Am really sad for you that this has happened. Peo...Am really sad for you that this has happened. People can be odd about things like this though, bit like bereavement. I didn't tell many people (my next door neighbours still don't know) and thinking about it, its may be because I was afraid of peoples reactions. Perfectly nice people can be a bit shallow I suppose and some thing are outside their experience. Doesn't excuse it though as its rather rude, but people are. Hope you feel better today xSharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14063625322940208382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-72088332827485039672016-01-18T07:41:36.739-08:002016-01-18T07:41:36.739-08:00:-D
:-D<br />SWMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08695623151674239441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-44129907619074940612016-01-18T07:40:46.921-08:002016-01-18T07:40:46.921-08:00You handled it like the lady you are!
Well done!
P...You handled it like the lady you are!<br />Well done!<br />PengoWalktosobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02650619663147398056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-83036788431793695492016-01-18T05:57:06.274-08:002016-01-18T05:57:06.274-08:00Gosh people are so strange sometimes. I had a simi...Gosh people are so strange sometimes. I had a similar experience after my 2nd miscarriage where I met with 2 friends for coffee and a chat and they didn't even mention. It was surreal. It's hurtful but hey ho we keep on going xxxEdinburgh Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507850075300916316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-15907628669300314842016-01-18T05:02:49.017-08:002016-01-18T05:02:49.017-08:00Yesterday seems to have been a universal sad day. ...Yesterday seems to have been a universal sad day. Some of my Soberistas friends, some of my family, ... People having sad days. You are right that the personal victory in your sad day is that you didn't turn to wine. But rather than just let the sadness be, maybe you should contact her, but not as a reply to that group thing. HOw could a true friend (or even a not true friend) ignore what you shared with her? It's unfathomable. Do you have a private email or phone number so you could text something? Maybe just that you have been going through something devastating and could use her kindness now??? This is very sad, so very sorry.peacerunnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13031620292160444104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-87459773203624591272016-01-17T23:38:47.369-08:002016-01-17T23:38:47.369-08:00Thanks SM. I haven't put my blog address on he...Thanks SM. I haven't put my blog address on here yet but it's… singleplusbaggage.blogspot.co.uk . It's about being in our 40s (ish) and the baggage we've accumulated along the way. It's written from the perspective of a recently single woman - that's me! It's about finding out who I am again but my married readers have said it rings true for them too as their kids get older and their world changes. I hope it makes you smile! Love SPB. xxxSingle Plus Baggagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01871392323149432917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-40173467567101462922016-01-17T22:11:26.915-08:002016-01-17T22:11:26.915-08:00So sorry about your friend, SPB, and about your re...So sorry about your friend, SPB, and about your reader's (lack of) reaction. Have you already given us all your blog address? I'd love to read your post. Hugs xxxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-41100333919375536062016-01-17T22:09:22.567-08:002016-01-17T22:09:22.567-08:00You're right, JNM. I love you all xYou're right, JNM. I love you all xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-43277850307573044212016-01-17T22:08:36.089-08:002016-01-17T22:08:36.089-08:00Maybe. XxMaybe. XxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-19347689700720812902016-01-17T14:58:59.217-08:002016-01-17T14:58:59.217-08:00Hi SM. I'm so sorry that happened and that it&...Hi SM. I'm so sorry that happened and that it's understandably made you feel sad. I know exactly what you mean as something similar happened to me this week. I was writing a blog post but mid edit I found out that someone I knew had died. Strangely it happened to be relevant to what I was writing about so I included it. One of my readers, who happens to be someone very close to me, emailed to say how the post had affected her which was lovely but totally ignored I'd put on there that my friend had died! Actually she regularly responds to issues in my world by pointing out how they highlighted difficulties she finds in her life. She doesn't really support me when I'm in need but expects me to run to her side again and again. I've decided to stop believing she'll change and think about anyone but herself. I guess sometimes we just have to move on. But it doesn't stop you hoping you were wrong… Love SPB xxxSingle Plus Baggagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01871392323149432917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-52268497672236564222016-01-17T14:43:34.814-08:002016-01-17T14:43:34.814-08:00Hi SM, just reading the replies here lets me feel ...Hi SM, just reading the replies here lets me feel some of the radiated warmth and depth of affection that is generated by your friends here. Go to bed feeling as safe and secure as you can, there are a lot of people thinking about you and willing you to make a full and speedy recovery.<br /><br />JustonemoreJustonemorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07660105307364281743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-88582894979925443812016-01-17T14:14:57.776-08:002016-01-17T14:14:57.776-08:00Just a thought SM, she may be sending those group ...Just a thought SM, she may be sending those group emails purely as part of the business set up and not reading replies...may even be someone else sending on her behalf. Paranoia is all too easy, I know and have been there, but a simple explanation may be that she's not seen your news. xDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546083009960853761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-38153392425559341002016-01-17T14:02:08.118-08:002016-01-17T14:02:08.118-08:00Glad you're feeling feisty, SWMum! Go girl!!! ...Glad you're feeling feisty, SWMum! Go girl!!! XSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-78494148091761087762016-01-17T14:01:11.123-08:002016-01-17T14:01:11.123-08:00You're right, Kats - I think technology makes ...You're right, Kats - I think technology makes everything more tricky! Hugs to you xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-86608761436394458712016-01-17T13:59:40.070-08:002016-01-17T13:59:40.070-08:00Sorry you're feeling sad Lia! Just remember, d...Sorry you're feeling sad Lia! Just remember, drinking today is borrowing tomorrow's happiness. Tomorrow's going to be great ;-) xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-47987571626954604812016-01-17T13:57:58.441-08:002016-01-17T13:57:58.441-08:00I think same is true here, WB. It's inevitable...I think same is true here, WB. It's inevitable.... Hugs xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-30276995891424256162016-01-17T13:57:17.400-08:002016-01-17T13:57:17.400-08:00Sending prayers for your friend LNM. Breast cancer...Sending prayers for your friend LNM. Breast cancer is a walk in the park compared to ovarian. Hope she gets through it xxxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-44236866752163182952016-01-17T13:55:44.052-08:002016-01-17T13:55:44.052-08:00I think you're awesome too, Red. Bear hug back...I think you're awesome too, Red. Bear hug back xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-17216470932840854992016-01-17T13:55:04.842-08:002016-01-17T13:55:04.842-08:00Thanks for the disclaimer LNM, but actually I thin...Thanks for the disclaimer LNM, but actually I think you're right about letting it go and trusting the universe.... Hugs xxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-38678697603336631252016-01-17T13:53:46.719-08:002016-01-17T13:53:46.719-08:00So sorry about your Dad, Duchess. I hope he's ...So sorry about your Dad, Duchess. I hope he's looking down and is proud of you :-) xxSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-54702632031249986582016-01-17T13:49:39.634-08:002016-01-17T13:49:39.634-08:00Sorry to hear about your sad day and well done for...Sorry to hear about your sad day and well done for not letting it derail you. If this person is important to you, I'd confront her about it. Feeling sad and confused signals to me that you don't value yourself enough as a friend for her to care about. (Self esteem alert!!) You are worth more than that. You have a right to feel mad, not sad, or at very least the right to an explanation.. Has she even opened your replies and read them?? (I.e not just the top line in the preview pane!). Anger is a healthy emotion and one that many people turn inward and drown rather than expressing for fear of how it's expressed and interpreted. Anger does not have to be aggressive, you are merely asserting your right to be treated with respect. Whew! Rant/lecture over!! Day 16 and I'm finding my voice again!SWMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08695623151674239441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-26084999206025597242016-01-17T10:46:40.001-08:002016-01-17T10:46:40.001-08:00I don't think human beings can handle rejectio...I don't think human beings can handle rejection of any sort. It is so hurtful. I don't think it gets better until it's resolved. It's so hard if you put yourself out there esp with a friend. The whole online thing just makes it insane thou. Hope you feel better soon. I bet your friend will get in touch and it's nothing you did xx. Kats76https://www.blogger.com/profile/18385975686360944534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-71351364073121790602016-01-17T10:32:09.870-08:002016-01-17T10:32:09.870-08:00I'm feeling sad today as well, for different r...I'm feeling sad today as well, for different reasons, but sad the same. It's Sunday morning here in California and I was thinking how a big glass of wine would just make me feel ???, then I decided to read your blog for the strengh. As you write in such a way as to not only inspire me, but move my soul. I'm will just go with the day and know it's okay to be sad. Tomorrow always brings something new...Lia Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13211861233662358798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-7613867959574193112016-01-17T10:11:28.032-08:002016-01-17T10:11:28.032-08:00Oh, hugs SM. Had a similar thing with an old frien...Oh, hugs SM. Had a similar thing with an old friend, and I concluded that all my bullshit had pushed her away....no actual evidence of that of course, what do you do? Just move on and hope that one day, there will be an email or a phone call. But it does suck xxxJackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09236064383725290818noreply@blogger.com