tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post7221648234813614030..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: Alcohol-Free DrinksSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-91870979554275029142018-08-26T23:04:00.733-07:002018-08-26T23:04:00.733-07:00Sugar cravings anyone? I've woken up feeling s...Sugar cravings anyone? I've woken up feeling so ashamed as if I had an alcohol binge last night, but instead of alcohol it was sugar.... It makes me feel so sad and ashamed as I'm so happy to be free from the booze for nearly 30 days and actually lost 5lbs! I was feeling like I was back to my normal self last week, eating well and balanced, exercising but this weekend I've been acting like some crazy sugar monster. I feel so ashamed and feel like I've undone all the hardwork or that I now I have a cross-addiction. How can I get a handle on this? Sober4Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07725091026932689038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-76350325113057738282018-08-16T05:12:01.725-07:002018-08-16T05:12:01.725-07:00I think Robs definitely right about some people no...I think Robs definitely right about some people not wanting a sober person in their group of friends, I didn't either when I was a heavy drinker and was secretly jealous of others who could truly take it or leave it. I had one friend who continually text me after I'd quit telling me surely I could just have one or 2 cheeky beers, or perhaps I could just drink at weekends etc. I so know that doesn't work for me and I now know she has a problem too. It sounds like you are loving life at the moment and you've done the really hard bit of getting over the first few very tough days so good luck to you, you can do this. You've done 10 months before which is amazing and you know going back to booze isn't for you so hopefully that will make you much stronger this time. Here's to a happy AF life everyone xx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-58265048582330448312018-08-15T22:55:02.584-07:002018-08-15T22:55:02.584-07:00I think she's actually slightly offended that ...I think she's actually slightly offended that I've given up as she doesn't get it and says us mum's need wine as parenting is hard. But at the time she's possibly also a take it or leave it person as she says that she can pour one drink and it last an entire evening. She also 'helpfully' suggested that maybe I should switch to spirits instead. But she also does a lot of going out and getting drunk still whereas I never used to enjoy doing that and would always feel regret if I got drunk, suffer terrible hangovers and end up wasting a day the following the day. Not to mention the anxiety, depression and poor diet the days that followed. I honestly feel great and don't feel like I'm depriving myself at all. I did 10 months sober and it was the best 10 months but I made the mistake of thinking I could just have one but slowly increased after that again. I guess she feels like I must be really depressed about the prospect of never drinking again when in fact the opposite is true! I feel excited about it and I just knew if I could get that first week to ten days under my belt then I could do it. That first week is the hardest but I climbed that wall that Clare talks about. I've read Clare's book and now reading Jason Vale. Thanks all for allowing me to share xxxSober4Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07725091026932689038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-54431272454088569902018-08-15T19:58:08.016-07:002018-08-15T19:58:08.016-07:00She's probably just dealing with her own stuff...She's probably just dealing with her own stuff. You'll know if she's a true friend if she accepts that this is something you have to do. I had friends that stopped talking to me when I quit. We used to drink a lot together, so I guess they didn't want a sober person in their circle of friends. <br /><br />Good luck and keep going :)<br /><br />Love<br /><br />Robw3stiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12432935983237515387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-11448153692973919532018-08-15T13:56:38.903-07:002018-08-15T13:56:38.903-07:00Yes be angry, that isn't helpful at all is it?...Yes be angry, that isn't helpful at all is it?!! Do you think your friend doesn't want you to give up, are they perhaps jealous as they can't quit themselves? Or just don't understand the extent of your problem? Whatever it is please carry on with your sober journey, you've just achieved 2 weeks, well done you xxx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-52148879758745054512018-08-15T08:51:58.937-07:002018-08-15T08:51:58.937-07:00Thanks! ;-)Thanks! ;-)Sober4Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07725091026932689038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-43678170102133377092018-08-15T08:51:36.971-07:002018-08-15T08:51:36.971-07:00Thank you!Thank you!Sober4Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07725091026932689038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-48342877187045693722018-08-15T08:51:15.477-07:002018-08-15T08:51:15.477-07:00Aaarrrgh rant alert! A friend who I've told th...Aaarrrgh rant alert! A friend who I've told that I've quit drinking has said<br /> <br />"Maybe you should learn to control the things you like better, than to give up the things you like just because you over do it...." <br /><br />I'm angry and annoyed at this comment. Sober4Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07725091026932689038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-34209629059304888662018-08-15T06:37:26.817-07:002018-08-15T06:37:26.817-07:00Yay, well done you!!! You have got this xx Yay, well done you!!! You have got this xx Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-58384293947881435932018-08-15T04:05:46.537-07:002018-08-15T04:05:46.537-07:00Yeah that’s fab!!! You are nailing it!!! XxxYeah that’s fab!!! You are nailing it!!! XxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13288209091220971398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-30692865365222566322018-08-14T23:34:08.867-07:002018-08-14T23:34:08.867-07:00Just shouting out from the rooftops that today I h...Just shouting out from the rooftops that today I have finally managed two weeks sober! The longest stint since I fell off the wagon last August after 10 months sober. I am doing this! ���� Sober4Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07725091026932689038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-31422532542957362152018-08-13T23:54:25.826-07:002018-08-13T23:54:25.826-07:00Hope you are doing ok and good luck with your AF j...Hope you are doing ok and good luck with your AF journey xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-27938783295545791542018-08-12T13:02:50.765-07:002018-08-12T13:02:50.765-07:00So here I am on a Sunday evening having promised m...So here I am on a Sunday evening having promised myself to not do it but there was a glass of white left and a glass of red which I just couldn’t throw away - these two glasses persuaded me to go to the corner shop and get another bottle of red - which I’m halfway through! I went 9 weeks at the beginning of the year without a drink and felt so much better for it. I was going to the gym, my skin looked better and I lost weight. Why the hell did I start again? Well I thought I could handle just the odd drink every now and then but obviously not!!! AF drinks do help, I call having a Becks Blue “guilt free drinking “ but I obviously have to get back in the zone as I feel like crap!!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08268270873242292296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-51346484764589496472018-08-10T23:26:53.284-07:002018-08-10T23:26:53.284-07:00This is brilliant. I am 7 months sober and it has ...This is brilliant. I am 7 months sober and it has helped me massively in social occasions, on holiday and at bbqs over the summer. Erdinger is really good as is Heineken. I think that all the beers are ok provided they are served very cold! Thanks for the amazing work on the blogs and the book. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-71977881993168030942018-08-10T07:40:51.536-07:002018-08-10T07:40:51.536-07:00I just reached the 100 day milestone Tuesday!! I ...I just reached the 100 day milestone Tuesday!! I was probably at around 50 days when I discovered "The Sober Diaries." I couldn't put it down, and it definitely helped me continue on this journey. It explained so much of what I was experiencing. I can't thank you enough. I know I've still got a lot of challenges ahead! As far as AF drinks go, I didn't know there was such a thing till I read the book. I looked on Amazon and found some wines, but they're expensive and I was kind of afraid it would trigger me to want the real thing. I have found that it helps to have a glass of Crystal Light lemonade made with extra lemon juice in a wine glass when I get home from work. There are no calories and for whatever reason it seems to relax me. I'm going to keep reading this blog and hope and pray that I'll one day be saying I'm at the 1 year mark!! Oh, and I'm also a breast cancer survivor, (14 years!) so why I was dumb enough to not curb my drinking before now, I'll never know. Thank you for writing the book, and offering inspiration and support through this blog!Traciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11509371543003038518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-20499442767669171832018-08-07T23:29:37.908-07:002018-08-07T23:29:37.908-07:00My initial AF go to drink was Bitburger lager stil...My initial AF go to drink was Bitburger lager still my favourite. But have added Tesco 0.5% G&T and Rawson's Retreat sparkling wine (0.5%). Still haven't found an acceptable AF wine. I am 2 and half years sober and am do pleased the drinks industry is finally realising that there is an increasingly huge market for AF drinks.Dr Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01338601181765320327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-77356880542700601462018-08-07T01:57:35.561-07:002018-08-07T01:57:35.561-07:00I love the feeling a being calmer. I have had a l...I love the feeling a being calmer. I have had a life time of changes thrown at me in the last 5 years, many of them have resulted in almost crippling grief. I 'thought' alcohol was the way to help me through... I really did get that wrong. I've been brought to my knees with anxiety many times recently and it's always after I have over indulged with wine. Right now I am loving the feeling of peace in my mind and PRAYING it will last. Great to know there is a place like this to go to.chaptertwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323565658128690577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-87256315889617255732018-08-06T23:38:26.328-07:002018-08-06T23:38:26.328-07:00Hi Dutch Courage, You have come to the right place...Hi Dutch Courage, You have come to the right place for support, have a poodle round Clare's blog, go back to where she started, read comments. You are not alone, you have just joined a great gang. I am just coming up to 2 years ... I would never ever have believed that possible. I have gained in confidence, I am calmer, more amusing it seems, and unbelievably happier. Hang on in there ... The waters get smoother and the rocky bits get less ... Promise. :-) Like Chaptertwo above I found Becks Blue a good substitute to start. I now love Elderflower with tonic (lots of ice and a pretty glass) Jacs60https://www.blogger.com/profile/00346952583682712837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-42792192977406167982018-08-06T06:45:29.256-07:002018-08-06T06:45:29.256-07:00PS could count on one hand the number of beers I h...PS could count on one hand the number of beers I have had previously, definitely not my drink of choice, yet I am loving the Becks Blue!!! I would never have tried them had I not read Clare's book. I took 4 with me to a big party on Saturday and felt almost drunk. Love them!! xchaptertwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323565658128690577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-45089404912400966712018-08-06T06:42:28.522-07:002018-08-06T06:42:28.522-07:00Hi Dutch courage,
Well I am VERY early on my jour...Hi Dutch courage,<br /><br />Well I am VERY early on my journey, just completed my first week AF YEAH and to be honest right now I feel great. I am conscious that I have a long journey ahead and I don't expect it to be smooth but for some reason something has finally kicked in and said enough is enough. Stumbing across Clare's book has been the catalyst for me. Whilst I had already cut down a very heavy drinking regime approx. 2 years ago, I was still drinking far too much and it just doesn't sit well with me. I suffer all the things that Clare describes, waking up around 3am, heart pounding out of my chest, the anxiety and depression the days following a BIG night, the weigh gain etc etc. Right now I am trying to envisage all the wonderful things this life has to offer without alcohol. I am hoping to meet like minded people on here that I can help and I can gain help from. xxchaptertwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323565658128690577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-89820975842132058622018-08-05T20:22:22.836-07:002018-08-05T20:22:22.836-07:00Hi all,
I am clearly up with the 3am guilt.
I mess...Hi all,<br />I am clearly up with the 3am guilt.<br />I messed up again last night and in need of a bit of help. Anyone out there who recently stopped drinking who can offer some support?Dutch couragenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-74285288370379260792018-08-03T04:38:02.761-07:002018-08-03T04:38:02.761-07:00Good luck to everyone in this war. We may lose a b...Good luck to everyone in this war. We may lose a battle or two along the way, keep focused, read, find support online and you will win the war.<br />I gave up alcohol in January for a month. I bought Clare's book and am now 7 months sober.<br />I drink San Miguel's zero alcohol, krombacher sin alcohol and many more.I rarely drank beer but for the first 3 months I always had some in my fridge as a safety net. Now I don't drink it as much.<br />There is a wide variety of alcohol free beer in Spain but not so much wine.<br />I can't believe that I am still sober. I don't want to go back to drinking.I love my life and my lifestyle today.<br />Believe in yourself, no-one else can do this for you. But you can, there's a lot of help out there.Happy party girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03444596092110515962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-24356831489243127242018-07-31T23:20:56.179-07:002018-07-31T23:20:56.179-07:00Hi, so sorry to hear about your struggle with alco...Hi, so sorry to hear about your struggle with alcohol and I hope you are ok. I'm with Clare on this one, Becks Blue all the way! It got me through the early days and surely AF beer is better than real alcohol if it can stop you touching the real stuff? When the wine witch came calling I would have 2 or 3 Becks Blue sometimes followed by a couple of AF G&T's to take off the edge and I would feel so bloated that drinking alcohol was not an option! Might not sound the healthiest of plans but I'm now on 4+ months and have never felt better and can even take or leave Becks Blue now. Good luck Tanya, stick with Clare's book and perhaps try the Jason Vale book. And when the wine witch comes calling perhaps try and fight her off with some AF stuff!! Good luck and please stay strong xxx <br /> Meggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-45146253653952539282018-07-31T15:49:13.051-07:002018-07-31T15:49:13.051-07:00Hey,
Felt like I wanted to comment. I admitted I ...Hey, <br />Felt like I wanted to comment. I admitted I was powerless over alcohol 3 months ago. After another stupid night of drinking (alone) never drank in company tbh, thst this was the end. I felt like I could not continue my life... I guess in my drunken haze I was better off out of this life. I sent numerous messages to my important loved ones telling them how much I loved them. I’m guessing I was gonna do something stupid that night... however I woke in the morning to find messages if I was ok, I couldn’t quite work out why I had these messages, then reality kicked in and it was then the penny dropped. I was gonna do something foolish, but low and behold I fell asleep!! Lol. It was then I realised I was an alcoholic. I found my nearest AA meeting and took my sorry arse there. So I’m at month 3, still going to AA AND still not sober. I go a couple of days of not drinking, then come the third night the little devil ( wine witch) insists that I have a drink, as what harm it can do. I’m fed up, pissed off with my self thst I cannot do it. I feel I have no will power and no determination to what would ultimately the best thing I ever would do. I’m currently reading your book and love your honesty. I’m toying with the idea of having non alcoholic beer, although AA go against this idea. Would u recommend as an idea? Sorry for going onAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11283566108554651569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-50005013277087919522018-07-29T22:42:55.066-07:002018-07-29T22:42:55.066-07:00I was exactly the same, I had to have Becks Blue i...I was exactly the same, I had to have Becks Blue in the fridge at the weekends!!! Now I have it if it’s in but it’s not the life line that it was in the early days. I personally would just say do whatever works for you, especially in the early days it’s just about ticking off more sober days and sticking with whatever helps!!! Now I will have ginger beer tonic water, Diet Coke, sparkling water, I haven’t found an af wine I like, the Bees Knees fizz is nice but tastes quite sweet. The priority for me is to have it in a wine glass, whatever it is! That’s what works for me and I’m coming upto 21 months next month. Thanks Clare for the fab post as always xxxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13288209091220971398noreply@blogger.com