tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post6814076294421088370..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: DrainedSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-60567232185450802952016-06-16T10:09:32.053-07:002016-06-16T10:09:32.053-07:00Hey girl. That collapse, that nothingness, I expec...Hey girl. That collapse, that nothingness, I expect is your brains way of processing. It's a huge amount of information from before, during and after. All those feelings too. Your brain is probably saying 'Hang on a minute, let me just process this.' It'll come, you'll get there. Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07490576459118958941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-55293207314452379202016-06-16T04:05:39.164-07:002016-06-16T04:05:39.164-07:00Thinking of you and hoping you feel better today.Thinking of you and hoping you feel better today.Kburkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14238990738750844563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-15051915730176805662016-06-16T04:03:38.397-07:002016-06-16T04:03:38.397-07:00Oh lovely - sending you gentle hugs and saying I t...Oh lovely - sending you gentle hugs and saying I totally understand the let down after you have carried on with adrenaline keeping you going. Sit back and nurture yourself and be gentle to yourselfMuddling Alonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04702217530704657676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-67508012338363251672016-06-16T00:25:59.286-07:002016-06-16T00:25:59.286-07:00Dearest SM, others have said it all - just adding...Dearest SM, others have said it all - just adding my hug to the bundle of love from all of us out here who care about you so much xxxPicklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16487766494596902908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-61404854662877043912016-06-15T21:14:09.128-07:002016-06-15T21:14:09.128-07:00As others have said, just rest and be unavailable....As others have said, just rest and be unavailable. I think there is some credence to the notion of being 'deplete' after long periods of stress. It feels like the neurotransmitters just don't have any chemicals left to transmit. Just stop moving and stop doing. You will be back soon I'm sure. Great news re results!Bubblesforbrainshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01071607959524442799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-5262718743802396022016-06-15T11:54:26.387-07:002016-06-15T11:54:26.387-07:00Great news. It's okay to feel flat and draine...Great news. It's okay to feel flat and drained. Cancer is a formidable opponent. Scares the hell out of me. We didn't choose it. We just live with it and that's all. But it's good news.Hilary63https://www.blogger.com/profile/17567500751408062268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-6243261375175098322016-06-15T11:52:54.113-07:002016-06-15T11:52:54.113-07:00Great news. It's okay to feel flat and draine...Great news. It's okay to feel flat and drained. Cancer is a formidable opponent. Scares the hell out of me. We didn't choose it. We just live with it and that's all. But it's good news.Hilary63https://www.blogger.com/profile/17567500751408062268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-5142724556934517502016-06-15T09:03:02.745-07:002016-06-15T09:03:02.745-07:00Take care. Rest. Let others do a bit for you.
I...Take care. Rest. Let others do a bit for you.<br />I'm sure the anxiety inside building up to the appointment was serious, even if you don't feel it outright.<br />Big hug. I wish I could bring you some tea and biscuits.<br /><br />AnneAinsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-57361405231127174012016-06-15T08:18:57.038-07:002016-06-15T08:18:57.038-07:00Western Society and the wretched media has conned ...Western Society and the wretched media has conned us into believing that we should all be happy all the time. That's not life!! Eastern approaches like Buddhism are more realistic as they recognise natural balance. You had every reason to feel drained. But you felt your emotions rather than numbing or medicating them. Be proud of that and kind to yourself. xxxSWMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08695623151674239441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-88736222533081900282016-06-15T06:34:49.488-07:002016-06-15T06:34:49.488-07:00Drained sounds about right for all that you've...Drained sounds about right for all that you've been through with this. I hope you are feeling a bit better today. Ripleybellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08484735194209368209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-64408492607539408382016-06-15T06:17:50.747-07:002016-06-15T06:17:50.747-07:00Try and find the right word for how you are feelin...Try and find the right word for how you are feeling and then say it out loud and then acknowledge that you are allowed to feel it and that it appropriate to the situation - 'I feel flat, drained and exhausted. I am allowed to feel flat drained and exhausted because I have been holding it together for me and everyone else. I am allowed to take time to feel like this. This is an appropriate way to feel given what I have been through.' <br />Something like that. Say it out loud as it impacts differently if you hear yourself say it rather than think it. This too shall pass. Big hugsGroundhog Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00896347749384197279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-12518402716450052872016-06-15T06:02:16.987-07:002016-06-15T06:02:16.987-07:00Dear SM you carry so much on your shoulders it'...Dear SM you carry so much on your shoulders it's bound to get too heavy at times. Treat yourself kindly and give yourself lots of self love and treats. So glad the test came out well!<br />Sending you a big hug and lots of love!freefallingsoberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14171072720652256584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-87379099229982001752016-06-15T05:48:34.537-07:002016-06-15T05:48:34.537-07:00Dear SM
When you have had to master all that you ...Dear SM<br /><br />When you have had to master all that you have, and in an amazing short span of time, it is only logical that that the feelings you encountered yesterday after your visit, would come down upon you like they now have. You've been holding on, staying STRONG throughout your ordeal, AND not drinking as a means to cope! Getting the news gave a part of you an opportunity to finally dare to feel vulnerable once again; with that comes some not easy feelings or moments. Holding yourself up and being accountable is hard and at times exhausting work! So please be kind and extra gentle with your self.<br /><br />Well done, SM murdockadockawitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00020726124640503192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-31722193776366196572016-06-15T05:29:39.496-07:002016-06-15T05:29:39.496-07:00Darling SM, you have been fighting the good fight ...Darling SM, you have been fighting the good fight for so long. Taking care of your family, sharing your story with us and generally holding it all together. No wonder you are exhausted. Possibly you just need a break, some downtime to do things which make you happy. Whether sharing cake with loved ones, walking somewhere you find beautiful or sleeping and recharging your batteries. You deserve it. Take care of yourself, hugs, xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03384586539207057247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-91772198250645974492016-06-15T04:44:47.913-07:002016-06-15T04:44:47.913-07:00Hi SM...I am happy that your results so far have b...Hi SM...I am happy that your results so far have been good! I think the anxiety preceding our appointments, especially in the first year, is overwhelming. Your mind and body are wound tight with anxiety and fear before the appt. and also while waiting for results. When you finally get them, you can breathe a big sigh of relief, but all of that anxiety and fear has taken a toll on you. From my experience, I think that it gets less anxious and fear ridden as time goes on. That being said, my husband always tells me that he knows when I have an upcoming appt. at the cancer center because I am on edge! I just try to remain thankful for the vigilance. Not much else one can do! Big Big HUGS to you!!! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-88308749490901396712016-06-15T03:32:03.316-07:002016-06-15T03:32:03.316-07:00Sending you lots of love SM. XxxSending you lots of love SM. XxxSilver Birchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409498893577816261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-77757596565315152472016-06-15T02:29:30.853-07:002016-06-15T02:29:30.853-07:00Sometimes we just need timeout. Be kind and gentle...Sometimes we just need timeout. Be kind and gentle. Take the time to zone out. You'll be back to expressing gratitude in no time. Hugs. Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04298002225816897754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-29458680548606524902016-06-15T02:14:59.082-07:002016-06-15T02:14:59.082-07:00Sending you a huge "energy huggle" as my...Sending you a huge "energy huggle" as my family call them....I am on a private support FB page and my most frequent post is to remind folks about Self Care..or the lack of it leading to relapse....take you own advice and listen to your body...so glad it was all clear...love PheonixRisinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06658972687881828853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-90705700409187544452016-06-15T00:54:55.119-07:002016-06-15T00:54:55.119-07:00I agree. Take it very easy! Perhaps the reality of...I agree. Take it very easy! Perhaps the reality of it all is just hitting you now, once the treatment is over and your results are fine. All perfectly normal. There are lots of nice gentle distractions around - Queens and then Wimbledon on tv, the online sales, the nice weather (ish). Have a nice quiet time. XWalkingonSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12032552302196182107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-49128191198154035042016-06-15T00:34:06.787-07:002016-06-15T00:34:06.787-07:00I felt EXACTLY following my husband's remissio...I felt EXACTLY following my husband's remission. Should be cartwheeling around the room instead feel like I have been hit by a bus. I think it is the realisation it is never going to go away - the blood tests etc. be kind to yourself. It does get better. MxMaevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13747649125723812946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-11512086701314002372016-06-14T21:44:33.749-07:002016-06-14T21:44:33.749-07:00As others have said, I suspect it's not just t...As others have said, I suspect it's not just the cancer (or lack of - yay!) that you are tired of. I get tired of the endless conversation about drinking (or not drinking) that goes on in my head. It's fucking (sorry) exhausting. It must be draining being so upbeat about the sober life all the time for us lot on this blog....and to others in the real world.<br />Put the cancer thing on top and I'm not surprised. Perhaps it is PAWS plus the stress of the appointments etc. <br />Others who have gone through it will probably advise better but I seem to recall with my mum she picked up around the 3 year post recovery mark. Might seem like a long way off but at least there is a light.<br />Stay in bed as long as you need and big hugs, you're a trooper for all that you do. xxScous Moushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10067391373243115713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-23145886203113607072016-06-14T20:51:28.762-07:002016-06-14T20:51:28.762-07:00What Northwoman1996 said! - Glad the first results...What Northwoman1996 said! - Glad the first results were good news - looking forward for more good news to came. Take care of yourself - Eeyoreeeyore.modhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878586242292184206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-23928633361187401552016-06-14T19:28:05.979-07:002016-06-14T19:28:05.979-07:00Keeping a brave front, being a mom, sharing via th...Keeping a brave front, being a mom, sharing via the blog and trying to be a support to others.....these and many other plates you keep spinning in the air, SM. <br /><br />If your head and body have decided: 'that's it, we're tired, plum wore out, in fact'! - well, that's ok. Good,even. Heed the message. Be good to yourself -you DO deserve! <br /><br />Big hug from here, too!Northwoman1996https://www.blogger.com/profile/09855277712359787495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-59688853117084192112016-06-14T18:23:07.469-07:002016-06-14T18:23:07.469-07:00Much love going out to you- so glad your marker is...Much love going out to you- so glad your marker is stable. <3CrawlingWalkingDancinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16838140012726909732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-51541235858766782672016-06-14T18:15:54.093-07:002016-06-14T18:15:54.093-07:00I think we sometimes don't realize how tense w...I think we sometimes don't realize how tense we are before big things like your appointment. You feel a let down afterward that is part letting go of the tension and part relief but all you FEEL is exhausted. Be kind to yourself and soon you will feel better it is behind you and you will be charging off to the next thing! Much loveA Better Pathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10901483153585997892noreply@blogger.com