tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post6089863727496909346..comments2024-03-27T00:48:06.021-07:00Comments on Mummy was a Secret Drinker: 5 signs that you're a problem drinkerSoberMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-24615106202036238442016-10-10T06:09:49.319-07:002016-10-10T06:09:49.319-07:00This is the predicament of the 'high bottom...This is the predicament of the 'high bottom' drinker. It’s a very grey area and if drinking hasn’t cost or caused you serious harm yet it’s so easy to just start again and see it as a 'break' to ‘recalibrate’. I had many of these 'breaks' and this led to a very fast downward spiral. It’s useful to write down how bad it got at the end. I'm scared of facing that but think it will be a useful exercise for me to write it down in all its horror. Hurrah for Coffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17569557513281365587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-72618375727781453682016-03-11T06:25:55.236-08:002016-03-11T06:25:55.236-08:00For me the 2:30 or 3am wakeups were the worst. I&...For me the 2:30 or 3am wakeups were the worst. I'd suddenly be wide awake, obsessing over every problem I had (including the drinking) and could not fall back asleep. I was SO RELIEVED when I started reading AF books and blogs and saw how VERY common this was for others. Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01510792493265337349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-59095855945257429552015-11-19T10:43:23.247-08:002015-11-19T10:43:23.247-08:00Welcome Lia, and well done you! Have you read Jaso...Welcome Lia, and well done you! Have you read Jason Vale - Kick the Drink yet? If not, please do - it'll really help you. Big hugs SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-16523405944368067012015-11-19T09:59:00.076-08:002015-11-19T09:59:00.076-08:00I been reading your blog for a week now, and this ...I been reading your blog for a week now, and this particular post really hit home. I'm only days into being sober, and of course, with Friday around the corner, I'm fighting the battle to drink after the work day. I'm one of you; and proud to be so. May this attempt to quit alcohol be the last! SM and all you strong women, thank you, thank you, thank you.Lia Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13211861233662358798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-88436615862621403032015-10-11T07:23:21.259-07:002015-10-11T07:23:21.259-07:00SM - many thanks and I do feel better but I am hun...SM - many thanks and I do feel better but I am hungry all the time. If I am not on this website, I need to be out and about but I am thinking of alcohol non-stop - more than I did (I think) when I drunk every day.<br /><br />Have just downloaded Jason Vale's book on my iPad for some bedtime reading (after Strictly results!) but need a lot of resolve to get through family roast dinner tonight without my usual accompaniment.<br /><br />Again thanks for blog as it is really helping me.RDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05354655978407722561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-76113813200801571632015-10-11T00:01:09.780-07:002015-10-11T00:01:09.780-07:00Hi RD! You sound so exactly like me! Please, pleas...Hi RD! You sound so exactly like me! Please, please buy Jason Vale's book: Kick the Drink, Easily. It'll really help you. And well done on 7 days! Bet you feel better already!?! Huge hugs SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-50127441089740374902015-10-10T13:15:56.120-07:002015-10-10T13:15:56.120-07:00I totally identify with you. I have always loved a...I totally identify with you. I have always loved alcohol and actually don't have a great tolerance so I get quite drunk after one bottle of wine and have blackouts if I have two. However, I have always loved a party and love having drink with friends. I regularly drink one bottle of wine 3 or 4 times a week - mostly on my own in the evening once the kids are in bed if I am not out with girlfriends. I also like to drink while I do paperwork / research at my desk (home office) at night. OH knows that I drink every night but has no clue how much - it is my little secret. He, on the other hand is a moderate drinker that can take it or leave it.<br /><br />I know that I have a problem due to a recent blackout which led to me sleeping fully clothed beside my daughter - wanting just to kiss her goodnight. I know that I have to moderate and I have not drunk anything for 7 days - the longest has been 2 days in the last 5 years when I was badly hungover. Even when I am sick, it is an excuse for a hot whiskey! But I am so scared to say I will give up totally. <br /><br />All this is new to me. I looked up sites yesterday to try to determine if I had a problem and how to handle it. I have taken a lot of support from this site so far and am working from the start. I know I have a problem but not ready to admit it to the outside world.RDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05354655978407722561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-10663563018231869512015-09-25T00:17:23.353-07:002015-09-25T00:17:23.353-07:00Thanks for posting, I have just joined this site, ...Thanks for posting, I have just joined this site, and only on day 2. I am nervous, anxious and deeply ashamed of my drinking, and can identify with all of the points. I have a husband who is something of an enabler, and in the past has bought me wine as he thinks it makes me happy. No it makes the addiction happy!<br />Well done and best wishes for continuing success on your journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-34582091305833728752015-04-12T02:01:58.703-07:002015-04-12T02:01:58.703-07:00Hi Forty Something Deamer! Thanks for posting, and...Hi Forty Something Deamer! Thanks for posting, and well done you on day 3! This is not my first attempt either - it seems that most people have several attempts before they make it. I'm sure too that we are the tip of a giant iceberg, and the more we can share (in a safe space) the better. Please stay in touch, and good luck! SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-43617241421980542902015-04-11T13:13:04.383-07:002015-04-11T13:13:04.383-07:00Hey there, on day 3 myself ( this is the latest in...Hey there, on day 3 myself ( this is the latest in a long line of attempts to stop) just wanted to pop by and say hello, well done and thank you for sharing your journey with us. I feel it is a bit of a lonely road, through a world that is awash with alcohol, so it is nice to see others on the same path. I believe there are millions of women across the world who are battling this demon... often alone. The more people who tell their story, hopefully the easier it will be for people to seek help or gain the courage to stop. Onwards & upwards. Best of luck on the journey & thank you for sharing. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09608837377472192089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-17219189776359672932015-04-11T06:11:32.392-07:002015-04-11T06:11:32.392-07:00Totally agree, Anne. I'm at that stage now whe...Totally agree, Anne. I'm at that stage now where I'm beginning to forget the awfulness - hence the list. How long have you been Ainsobriety? Thanks for posting! SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-36081578730959612622015-04-11T06:09:56.985-07:002015-04-11T06:09:56.985-07:00Well done Angie! You've done the hardest bit a...Well done Angie! You've done the hardest bit already! I think it's a good idea to make a note of life before you quit, as you quite quickly forget, and it's very easy to romanticise the drinking days. Please stay in touch and let us know how you're doing! SM xSoberMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09149651295183331661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-2414520818413429862015-04-11T05:10:57.740-07:002015-04-11T05:10:57.740-07:00Congrats on 40 days! You are doing so well. I am o...Congrats on 40 days! You are doing so well. I am on day 6 today. Thinking maybe I should start some lists of my own. A xAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553400229726508527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-44823869056584136502015-04-10T19:35:02.150-07:002015-04-10T19:35:02.150-07:00This is a great list. It's important to not le...This is a great list. It's important to not let time soften the memories of just how bad regular drinking can make one feel.<br />Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-21160426917376487832015-04-10T13:19:28.131-07:002015-04-10T13:19:28.131-07:00Dear SM,
Making a list to remind yourself is a gre...Dear SM,<br />Making a list to remind yourself is a great tool.<br />I had all of these, plus my husband was very concerned about my drinking. <br />I am so thankful I stopped before it got worse, which it was!<br />Have a happy day 40!!!<br />xo<br />WendyUntipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-3440547878063919522015-04-10T11:07:45.411-07:002015-04-10T11:07:45.411-07:00Hi SM
My own list is a bit different. I think it i...Hi SM<br />My own list is a bit different. I think it is very brave, sensible and honest of you to have this list to refer to if doubt sets in.<br /><br />I like drinking on my own. Probably not the biggest deal. I think us generation of wine mummies probably just enjoy some wine and p & q in the evenings. But I sense I like this solo drinking in a different way than most and that this could be very messy down the line. <br /><br />I drink WAY too fast.I eat fast, talk fast, run fast. I am a high energy person but I drink way too fast, not even intentionally half the time. But I am always finished my drink before everyone else (hubby excluded) and sneaking in other drinks where I can. <br /><br />I also blackout regularly. I am not sure if I am slightly damaged from excessive drinking in college and in my 20's but I hit walls out of the blue and bang I remember nothing. It has happened more times than I could possibly count. I am 38, its pretty shameful. I act like a complete idiot and say outrageous things. <br /><br />I have absolutely no off switch. I never did. I loved drinking from the first time i got drunk at 14. I only started to hate my destructive relationship with it after my second child. For the most part I have been on/ off it for 5 years. The 'off' periods have been perfectly pleasant and I was actually much happier. I never felt deprived. I am not exactly sure why I started again, I am obsessive by nature so I think that is why. Since I have started again it has been a never ending headache (literally and otherwise) to moderate. Kats76https://www.blogger.com/profile/18385975686360944534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4763877266715908242.post-82115047333005796842015-04-10T09:35:35.563-07:002015-04-10T09:35:35.563-07:00Congratulations 40 days that's brilliant x how...Congratulations 40 days that's brilliant x how true all of the above points were thank goodness for seeing the damage it was doing before any long term damage occurred x happy weekend Kagshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01968875912702356428noreply@blogger.com